Empathy and the ability to feel your feelings

Cathy Adams Dear Girls 1 Comment

  We were built to feel our feelings, even when feelings don’t feel very good. Anger, sadness, feeling left out – not enjoyable. But we all know these feelings intimately, they come and go throughout our lives. They are wonderful teachers, offering an appreciation for the happier moments and calmer times. They also create a sense of compassion and empathy …

You are wired for connection

Cathy Adams self-awareness 1 Comment

Over the years I’ve become geeky about neurological development and brain-wiring, and my absolute favorite wires are mirror neurons. These lovely links allow us the capacity to feel and experience what others are feeling and experiencing – we are literally wired to understand and help each other. Sometimes I feel like my brain is a house of mirrors because I …

Letting go of our junk

Cathy Adams mindfulness, Personal Reflection, self-awareness 0 Comments

Deep down our inner workings are good. What’s not good is all the junk piled on top of the good. The history, defensive mechanisms, trauma, judgmental thinking, biases, prejudices, and pain that blocks the good. Life is not a process of “becoming” better, we are good as we are. But we do have to commit to a consistent junk-removal process …

Love what we see

Cathy Adams Personal Reflection, self-aware parenting, Writing 2 Comments

I have met people who make poor choices, people who act out of fear, people who demonstrate the negativity they feel. They aren’t inherently bad. They’ve just forgotten who they are. Pieces of themselves have been harmed, shamed, or forgotten. They are no longer whole, they act from brokenness. They carry unexpressed experiences and stories. They believe untrue fears that …

Crying is real, crying is strong

Cathy Adams Be U: Raising Whole and Courageous Kids, Personal Reflection, self-aware parenting, Writing 6 Comments

I used to be uncomfortable in emotional movies because I’m a crier. I am moved very easily, I have always been moved very easily. So during a movie, or when witnessing an act of kindness, or when hearing a touching story, I would hold my breath, or wipe my eyes quickly, or blink fast – whatever needed to be done …