Zen Talk #88- Depression, Productivity Addiction, & Night Time Battles

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
1:37 Centering exercise
6:57 Conspiracy theories
15:02 My 16 year old daughter has quit E-learning and I don’t understand why.
30:10 My 6th grade son doesn’t want my help with school AND he cares more about gaming than school.
55:52 I found my 12 year old son watching porn. What is the best way to respond?

Zen Talk #86- Partner Seeing It Differently, Sleep, & In-Laws

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
3:38 My husband and I are not in agreement regarding how to set boundaries on our 13 year old son.
28:42 My 10 year old is asking me why I am working so much.
35:41 My kids are getting horrible sleep.  What do I do?  
44:50 Where is the balance between empathizing with someone’s situation and not allowing myself to be taken advantage of?
52:17 My in-laws are taking advantage of me.
58:16 When things get back to normal from Covid l- I’m not sure how to respond as restrictions loosen.

Zen Talk #84- Sadness, Anger, & Apologies

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
4:27 I’m sad because I’m overwhelmed
22:29 How do I express anger in a healthy way?
42:18 My 13 year old daughter  refuses to apologize to her brothers when she hurts them.

Zen Talk #83- Eating/Drink Too Much, Inequality B/W Siblings, & Playing Small

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Team Zen Updates- Support Micro-Community
7:52 Kristen-  I’m noticing more eating and drinking since Covid.
24:52 Cathy’s OREO’s habits
27:43 Malini- My oldest son gets away with more stuff, and my younger sons are asking why
51:48 Do I say I’m doing well when the people I’m with are not doing well

Zen Talk #82- Sending Out An SOS

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
0:00 Todd & Cathy riffing about awareness, acceptance, and surrender
14:43 Anita feels big-time tension between her and her 12 year old daughter
20:18- Kim feels challenged being the mediator between her 16 year old daughter and her husband
41:13- how do you explain the benefits of dopamine to my 9 year old daughter
45:45 Jennifer is sad and she’s owning it!!! (Thank you for modeling)
54:00 SOS group

Zen Talk #80- Support, Lying, & Spinning Plates

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
4:27 Ally is a healthcare worker and is looking support
13:56 11 year old son uses the word “rape” flippantly and inappropriately
26:22 13 year old keeps lying to me
41:10 Dawn is struggling keeping her kids on a schedule
50:52 Spin the plates

Zen Talk #79- Corona Virus Part 2

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
2:49 Cathy’s update on things that have been helpful
10:44 Good News
12:45 I want to expose my kids to good life skills- how do I go about it without losing my s$%*?
20:30 Jennifer is feeling guilty because I am not productive, I’m only surviving
25:00 The mom from Little House on the Prairie
28:21 Lisa is trying to be normal and has been pushing down her feelings, until now 😊
33:54 Cathy’s turn to cry
36:40 Maslow’s hierarchy of needs
37:50 Toilet paper talk
40:05 Kelsey is 38 week’s pregnant and is checking in
41:12 Millie doesn’t know how to encourage her teenager to go outside
50:28 Nicki feels responsible for the well-being of the people she helps.  Where the proper balance? 

Zen Talk #78- Corona Virus Part 1

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
1:33 Cathy’s intro to the corona virus
6:03 Lauren doesn’t know whether to let the nanny back in their home
20:38 Gail needs suggestions to motivate her teenagers.
26:40 Millie is in a shelter in place situation in northern California. How do I motivate my eight year olds in an e-learning situation.
40:45 Marjorie has an 8 year old is having a hard time because of his need for routine and structure.
43:25 Kelsey is 7 months pregnant and is struggling with some fear.
58:02 Emily has an only child 6 year old and is worried if she’s getting enough social interaction.

Zen Talk #77 Marriage, Emotional Athletes, Quitting

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
3:25 How do I make my kids feel supported when the other parent is in a triggered/threatened state
30:08 11 year old son who emotes on the soccer field
41:19 15 year old daughter wants to quit cheerleading. What should I do?

Zen Talk #73- Brother’s Withdrawal, Climate Change, Body Image, & Toddlers

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
0:55 Brother upset about mom’s will and is withdrawing from the family
21:12 11 year old son is expressing anxiety regarding climate change
27:51 11 year old son is becoming body conscious
36:42 5 year old son having a hard time managing anger and frustration
47:40 Toddlers are expressing normal “toddler-like behavior”- stuttering, biting nails, pushing boundaries, but mom is having a hard time navigating

Grown & Flown- Zen Talk #70

By Todd Adams on

Discussion & Time Stamps
2:35 The balance between staying connected and not helicoptering
8:11 How to stay connected to my rebel daughter
15:40 College admissions process- am i backing off too much?
34:35 The things we really need to be teaching our kid
Can they cope with hard feelings
Can they handle their own problems
Can they take full responsibility with self care- Can they manage their time?
Do they know how/when to seek help
Can they take responsibility for their own bad decisions
Can our kids assess risk- 
37:50 My niece wants to be a beautician, how do I navigate this?