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Discussion & Time Stamps
2:49 Cathy’s update on things that have been helpful
10:44 Good News
12:45 I want to expose my kids to good life skills- how do I go about it without losing my s$%*?
20:30 Jennifer is feeling guilty because I am not productive, I’m only surviving
25:00 The mom from Little House on the Prairie
28:21 Lisa is trying to be normal and has been pushing down her feelings, until now 😊
33:54 Cathy’s turn to cry
36:40 Maslow’s hierarchy of needs
37:50 Toilet paper talk
40:05 Kelsey is 38 week’s pregnant and is checking in
41:12 Millie doesn’t know how to encourage her teenager to go outside
50:28 Nicki feels responsible for the well-being of the people she helps. Where the proper balance?
Michael Singer Mini-Course
12:01:59 From Dawn Dockey : All over the map!
12:02:07 From Anita Fudalewski : Oh no Millie!!
12:02:19 From LisaP : between 3-5 depending on minute !
12:02:21 From jolene : 3-4
12:03:02 From Anita Fudalewski : we lost you for a bit…
12:04:19 From Dawn Dockey : AWESOME tip
12:05:32 From Todd Adams : who wants to ask the first question?
12:06:38 From Anita Fudalewski : Hubby wants us to get a new puppy!
12:07:12 From Dawn Dockey : Introvert’s dream!! Ha
12:12:29 From Jennifer : I have something.
12:15:15 From Anita Fudalewski : Mine too
12:17:07 From Anita Fudalewski : What about all the household stuff?? Everyone is home which equals more dishes, more messes, etc…
12:17:31 From Anita Fudalewski : Lots more burden on mom…
12:17:53 From Millie to Todd Adams(Privately) : Hey Todd & Cathy, I will likely not be able to talk bc I’m working on schoolwork with my kids. May I ask my question here and maybe you guys can get to it if there’s time? We have been e-learning since a week ago. How do we get a teenager (13) to get outside and get physical activity? Without PE and the after school activity that used to be her only physical activities, we cannot motivate her to get outside. I’ve tried saying it’s our “family values” to get outside and get fresh air, and that this is new to all of us. She refuses to take walks with us. She MIGHT go in the backyard but only if someone else is there with her and sometimes that’s really hard (bc I’m maybe working with the boys or making food, etc) but even then, she’s resistant. What other ideas might you have to motivate a very stubborn 13-year-old right now? In general, her attitude is fairly negative about family connection time. I hate dangling screen time or some other thing to “make” her do it. We’re only getting started with this new norm
12:23:13 From kelseyholt : AGREED Jennifer!! I feel overwhelmed a lot and like I’m spinning in circles. It’s hard to just sit down and read and relax.
12:25:12 From LisaP : I am with you, Jennifer! My anxiety is there minute to minute. My extroverted husband is a HANDFUL and in pain… returned from Italy after seeing his mother with Alzheimers and watching his homeland from afar has been excruciating. causing incredible strain in the house bc we are not aligned on handling our teenagers and his state is stressful for kids. feeling stuck and just trying to survive.
12:26:15 From Erin Kuhn-Krueger : Caroline
12:26:34 From Emily Chang : Karen is the actress’s name
12:26:44 From Todd Adams : would you like to ask that question lisa?
12:26:52 From Cesa : Karen is the actress so technically correct
12:27:13 From Mimi Inahuazo : I love Little House on the Prairie!!!!
12:27:48 From Mimi Inahuazo : I’m enjoying preparing food & actually sitting down with my kids like it’s a Saturday
12:27:55 From LisaP : sure….could use some help on how to support here when I feel edgy myself…and still worried about my daughter I spoke of last time….
12:28:45 From Dawn Dockey : wow love this idea. Vision-boarding how you want to look back on this time
12:31:35 From Jennifer : Sending lots of love and hugs your way, Lisa!
12:32:10 From Todd Adams : who is next?
12:32:46 From Millie to Todd Adams(Privately) : Hey Todd, sorry that I cut out earlier. Did you end up talking about my question? If so, I’ll go back to listen later.
12:33:04 From nicki : My husband and my companies needs have taken over our world,
12:33:07 From Anita Fudalewski : Hugs to Lisa and Jennifer and Kelsey
12:33:31 From Todd Adams to Millie(Privately) : not yet. u want to ask or me to say it?
12:33:56 From LisaP : thank you so much, everyone…I guess it was time for it to come out.
12:34:10 From Emily Chang : Hugs to you Lisa!! I’m crying with you!!
12:34:43 From Anita Fudalewski : Release it!!
12:34:57 From Anita Fudalewski : Our heros
12:36:26 From Millie to Todd Adams(Privately) : If we have time, I can talk. But only if we have time. I’d rather hear from the others. I feel like that one issue is way less important. Not belittling it. But having a stubborn teenager not wanting to go outside is a SMALLLLLLL issue compared to the bigger picture. I can always post on FB.
12:37:39 From LisaP : authenticity is what I hear…
12:38:19 From Dawn Dockey : https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html
12:38:53 From Jennifer : Kelsey, Sitting down to read or relax feels impossible for me right now! I’m trying out adult coloring books because it’s mindless but releases some of my nervous energy. I’m with you. Sending love!! xoxo
12:39:06 From LisaP : thank goodness for our Bidet!
12:39:14 From LisaP : Italian
12:40:42 From kelseyholt : Thanks, Jennifer <3 I’m focusing on keeping my expectations very low and just prepping for baby. XOXO
12:42:24 From Todd Adams to Millie(Privately) : who wants to go after millie?
12:42:46 From Todd Adams : who wants to go after millie?
12:43:54 From nicki : I would like to
12:44:08 From Todd Adams : you’re next nicki.
12:44:52 From Erin Kuhn-Krueger : Bye all. Have to go prevent a meltdown. Love, patience and strength to you all!
12:51:08 From Anita Fudalewski : I like it!!
12:51:30 From Kimberlee Sauerwine : I’m interested! thanks!
12:53:56 From Millie : Thank you, Nicki! You guys also just reminded me that somewhere I read about how all the communities affected by Hurricane Katrina kind of went through what we’re going through now. School basically STOPPED for them for months! And the article said that those kids are now doctors and lawyers and contributing citizens of the world. Perspective. And thanks, Todd, for the suggestion to really go deeper on the surrender! Clearly, I haven’t REALLY surrendered. Thank you, all!
12:55:26 From Dawn Dockey : Can you send the link for that article Millie?
12:56:12 From Millie : Sorry, Dawn. I have no idea where I heard that. It could have been on a podcast. There’s been so much information in the past two weeks that I don’t remember where that came from. So sorry!
12:58:47 From Kristen : Dawn, I listened to an on being podcast yesterday (the newest one with Rebecca Solnit) with Krista tippet and she talked about Katrina from 2016. It was interesting and applies to today.
12:58:52 From LisaP : I was about to apologize for the heavy load I shared…but then I shifted to gratitude. THank you all so much. Wishing peace to you all.
12:59:30 From Anita Fudalewski : ♥♥♥☺☻☺
12:59:32 From Millie : Great shift in framing your thoughts, Lisa!!!! Gratitude!!!
12:59:54 From Jennifer : Millie, be gentle with yourself! This is so new and we’re all learning as we go. It’s hard to let so much go at one time. You’re aware and that’s the first great step. We’ll get through this together! xoxo
13:00:16 From Millie : Thanks, Jen!!! xoxoxo
13:00:51 From Anita Fudalewski : Thank you so much for doing more to bring us together!!♥♥♥
13:01:13 From Kimberlee Sauerwine : we appreciate all that you do for us! thank you!
13:01:14 From Kristen : Its so good to see everyone’s faces!
13:02:52 From Mimi Inahuazo : bye everybody!!!! love ya so much!!! thanks guys
13:02:53 From kelseyholt : LisaP thanks for sharing your situation and your feelings!! <3
13:03:03 From Emily Chang : Hugs to everyone!!
13:03:04 From Millie : Sending love!!!
13:03:06 From LisaP : thanks again all. xoxox