Discussion & Time Stamps
1:00 Helen had a question between self-love and being selfish for her daughter.
8:24 Kimmee has an “uncoachable” 10 year old who has some challenges with perfectionism.
22:56 Megan’s 10 year old has some anxiety challenges to the point where he wants to join her in the bathroom at the grocery store. Is this normal?
30:56 Anita is struggling with her 11 year old daughter who is some displaying some rebellious behaviors with her. She doesn’t know whether she’s too strict or not strict enough.
45:26 Matt lives apart from his 6 year old daughter and is struggling to maintain connection with her partially due to the opposing parent philosophies with his former wife
1:01:45 1440 update- Oct 25th-27th
12:02:25 From Millie : I love Kimmie’s slogan for Team Zen! Hope she gets a commission for it. 🙂
12:03:06 From Kimmee : Gratitude is perfect!!
12:07:22 From Todd Adams : is Lindsay on?
12:09:58 From Kimmee : I have a question
12:11:29 From Todd Adams : who wants to ask a question after Kimmee?
12:11:52 From Megan Edwards : I have a question.
12:17:07 From Millie : Carol Dweck: Mindset (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0345472322/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0)
12:17:32 From Helen : It sounds like a a case of ‘imposter syndrome’ which is really common & probably he’s not the only one inthe class who feels that. 10 is really young though
12:20:16 From Malini DiClemente : My son has been like this as well…he is now 12, and it sounds like you are talking about him 🙂
12:20:42 From Malini DiClemente : Though he never talks about him ever failing….it is usually someone else with the problem…
12:21:23 From Anita Fudalewski : I can go next with a question 😌
12:22:49 From Millie : Jessica Lahey’s Gift of Failure (https://www.amazon.com/Gift-Failure-Parents-Children-Succeed/dp/0062299255)
12:24:55 From Kimmee : Thanks guys!!!
12:28:47 From jacquelineforbes : Matt has a question
12:34:22 From Kimmee : Sending you hugs!!!
12:36:34 From jenniferwilliams : Hugs to you, Anita!
12:36:41 From Kimmee : Remember 100% support!!!!
12:36:47 From melissa stottmann : ❤️❤️❤️
12:37:13 From kelseyholt : Yay crying! I’ve cried several times on a Zen talk, and been nervous and had a shaky voice <3 <3 <3 Thanks for speaking up!
12:39:16 From Millie : Anita, first I feel your pain. I have a newly-12 daughter who is also very opposite from me…which is the cause of much of my frustrations. I have finally come to the realization that it’s not her that I need to change but myself. I had to become very very very aware of what my own triggers were. It’s super super hard and I continue to struggle with it. But that’s why she is my daughter. I’ve got something to learn from her.
12:41:11 From Millie : Ooooh, yes, notes!!!! The idea of Love Notes that someone posted on Facebook was brilliant! All my kids, and my husband, have really loved them. And I think that my daughter’s recent jovial attitude may be due to those Love Notes!
12:42:18 From Malini DiClemente : I have been writing the valentine hearts for my boys and leaving one every morning on my door…waking up EARLY to do this before they get up, and my 12 year old has yet to react to it in a way that I can see 🙂
12:42:30 From Malini DiClemente : But I am still doing it…
12:42:33 From Alyssa : Yes! I’ve been having so much fun with the love notes! Hitting my “Words of Affirmation” love language kids hard!!
12:43:13 From Alyssa : Malini – my 12 yr old boy – – no reaction! But my twin 10 yr olds girls – TONS of enthusiasm!!
12:43:16 From mimiinahuazo : Igive notes and treats
12:43:45 From Malini DiClemente : only my 9 year old has said something…even my 7 year old son says nothing 🙂
12:44:17 From Malini DiClemente : My husband is the same Cathy!!!
12:44:36 From Megan Edwards : I’m doing hearts on my son’s and husband’s door and they don’t mention it much either! LOL!
12:45:05 From Kimmee : My husband didn’t get it either! And my son throws it away each morning, but I do it anyway:)
12:45:09 From Anita Fudalewski : THANKS EVERYONE!!
12:45:18 From Anita Fudalewski : I feel the love 😍
12:46:12 From Megan Edwards : Awesome idea with pictures!
12:46:21 From Alyssa : I’ve done lyrics to Jason Mraz “I Want you to have it all!”
12:47:37 From kelseyholt : From The Lion King maybe? Can you feel the love tonight?
12:52:09 From Megan Edwards : Yes! We love that song Alyssa. Thanks for that idea. 🙂
12:53:58 From Millie : What about sending good ol’ fashioned letters to your daughter as a way to connect other than FaceTime? My daughter has written letters (short notes really) with a cousin on the East Coast. She is SOOOO excited to receive a letter in the mail.
12:54:36 From mimiinahuazo : post cards are awesome!
12:57:23 From mimiinahuazo : he’s such a good dad!!!!
12:57:29 From jenniferwilliams : We set my daughter up with an iCloud account so she can text family living far away…. She loves it and we let her use the iPad when she needs to connect with them
12:57:45 From Millie : Oooh, I like your idea, Cathy. If you take those photos of your day/week, print out old fashioned prints, write on the back of them what you were doing or if you were thinking of her, and mail those. A 6-year-old can certainly appreciate looking at pictures.
12:59:24 From Alyssa : What about reading books during facetime? You could send her the book and get a copy for yourself. You could ask her to find the book and you could read to her? If she wants to color while you read,, that’s ok….but maybe ex-wife would accept this better than no talking at all? And daughter will hear your voice later, too, when she looks at the book herself.
13:01:14 From Millie : I LOVE this book: https://www.amazon.com/Invisible-String-Patrice-Karst/dp/0875167349/ref=sr_1_1?crid=NJ319W3IIAL9&keywords=the+invisible+string&qid=1549652457&s=Books&sprefix=the+invisible%2Cstripbooks%2C188&sr=1-1
13:04:37 From Millie : OMG…yay!!!!!!! Team Zen retreat for sure!!!
13:04:54 From Megan Edwards : So cool! I have been to 1440 and it is so great. You both are a perfect fit for it. Would love to come see you both there!