Team Zen Members

  • Name

  • Elaine
  • Vaughan
  • vaughan_ej
  • Contact Info

  • vaughan_ej@yahoo.com
  • Yes
  • Location

  • United States (US)
  • Illinois
  • Wilmette
  • (GMT -6:00) Central Time (US & Canada), Mexico City
  • Springfield, IL (childhood)...Champaign-Urbana (Uof I alum)...Fresno CA (early 20s)...Tampa FL (early 30s)...Scottsdale AZ (short stint here)...Chicago/Wilmette IL (the last 15yrs)

  • About

  • 03/30/1971
  • Married, Divorced
  • I live in Wilmette, IL. I'm 51yrs old (in the depths of the transition from perimenopause to menopause, I think this is relevant to my bio!), married and a mom to two boys: Sky, 14 and Chance, 10. I used to work in Big Pharma selling legal drugs to docs...love science...and integrative care too! Was a realtor in FL in th past and used to own my own painting business...all of this is pre-kids. We moved here from the city (Chicago) 4yrs ago...I add this because it's a very different life experience here than in the city:)...some good things, some challenging things. My kids have freedom...they can bike all across the area safely...with "other mothers" keeping an eye on then. This area is also very affluent and entitled often...my husband and I come from "nothing", so our conditioning is very different than those around us. There is a lack of diversity here for sure. Still we keep our energy committed to creating a life experience for our family that represents our core values. I would describe myself as an extroverted introvert and as an "outlier". I am very intentional with where I "put" my energy. I came to the world this way and I coexist contentedly with everyone around me while still being in the "outlier" space. My top strengths are my love of learning (I'm happy to have my nose in a textbook 24/7 or I'm happy to be in a "classroom" all the time), perspective (I naturally go up on a mountain top and look down), judgment (I'm a critical thinker and feel it is very important that this natural ability of mine become a skill my children possess, I admit a bit of projection here!), gratitude, love and self-regulation. My story also includes working on staying in balance...not overusing or underusing strengths...both can be "defaults" at times. I'm a 1 on the Enneagram. I'm a certified health and wellness coach through the Institute For Functional Medicine (FMCHC) so I have a great deal of training and experience in the "how" of things...while honoring that we all often already know the "what". The word "coach" is not my favorite, alas, it is what it is. I do not see healthcare, or pretty much anything, as a dichotomy...I live in the paradox and am pretty "gray" (as opposed to black and white) often. And, btw, words...oh words...they are very important to me. "Words are the wardrobe for our soul." I very much see my "job" as parent to be ushering my children into themselves. Cathy and Todd's motto for Zen Parenting has always resonated deeply with me.

  • She/her
  • 2
  • Clear is kind, unclear is unkind...Brene Brown

    We aren't in control of our destiny, but we are in control of our probabilities...Kaufman (Positive Psychology)

    There are no solutions...only trade-offs...Thomas Sowell

  • Interests

  • Don't watch many...I think maybe "Love Actually" is a favorite...come to think of it.

  • Maids, The Morning Show, Ted Lasso, Grey's Anatomy (yep, I've watched it since it's day one)...Yellowstone (dark!), Roar, Gutsy, The Good Fight.

  • Zen Parenting, Dhru Purohit, Pulling the Thread, Ask Lisa, Dare to Lead, Unlocking Us, On Purpose, Reimagining Love, Armchair Expert, Work Life with Adam Grant, We Can Do Hard Things, Better, The Human Upgrade, Revolution Health Radio, The Rob Cast...and the list goes on. I like to listen to things that challenge me and are outside of my confirmation bias...some of what I've mentioned can be just that at times!

  • My first favorite book ever, in 8th grade, Sacajawea by Anna Lee Waldo. I read so much that really have "one" favorite is impossible. I really loved Sue Monk Kidd's book The Book of Longings...A Radical Awakening and all books by Shefali Tsabary, Whole Brain Living by Jill Bolte Taylor...geez, too many to list. Duffy's two books. Atomic Habits by James Clear. Thing Again by Adam Grant. My library is BIG with lots of different genres. The list is long and deep...

  • Reading....learning...yoga...strength training...nutrition...taking "care" of myself...cultivating relationships...helping people rewrite their own stories running through their heads so they feel better...

  • Professional Info

  • FMCHC, Functional Medicine Certified Health Coach (Institute for Functional Medicine)