The Gift Of Failure- Podcast #407

Todd and Cathy discuss Jessica Lahey’s The Gift of Failure, and discuss why allowing our kids to make mistakes will help them succeed. They also discuss the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, why rewards and punishment don’t work, and why praising our kids for effort rather than outcome will lead to greater success and a healthier sense of self. They play a clip of a Hillary Clinton interview on the Dear Sugar podcast, a commercial about failure from Michael Jordan, and discuss Carol Dweck’s book Mindset.

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1:50 Dear Sugar clip with Cheryl Strayed with Hillary Clinton

8:52 Discussion on The Gift Of Failure

24:00 Intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation

25:00 Rewards

32:50 Are your kids average?

35:22 Modeling

40:27 Canvas People– Enter “zen” for your free 11″ X 14″ Canvas

41:23 Mindset- fixed or growth?

56:21 Michael Jordan Nike commercial

57:30 Habits of the “controlling” parents

60:30 Good News Stories

62:44 Our amazing partner for the ZPR Conference David Serrano – Call 815-370-3780

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jim pruett

11/24/2017 at 3:57 am

I enjoy your sticht.

Perhaps you could somehow corral the fact that women more often hellicopter their kids and dad don’t.

I could go on an on, but aggressive behavior (hellicopter) always wins over laissez faire (dad) behavior.

It makes dads powerless to build kids as they see fit.

Turning mundane into inspiring!

SanDiegoMomJen, USA

Zen Parenting Radio has changed my day to day life. The mundane and sometimes frustrating tasks of the day have become productive and thought-provoking. Now I look forward to folding laundry or my commute so I can listen to Todd and Cathy. They are authentic, funny and a wealth of information and resources. As I am encouraged through Zen Parenting to become a more self-aware person, I already see the positive impacts in my parenting, marriage, and relationships. I never thought I would wish my commute was longer.

Game Changer

Rose, USA

Todd and Cathy’s approach to mindfulness and conscious parenting is both refreshing and humble. They help parents gain insightful information through self-discovery, humility, and without judgment. You leave a podcast feeling inspired and positive, versus shamed and less than. Their genuine love for another, their children, and the community at large is a welcome change. This podcast is a must. A true game changer.

Hands down my favorite podcast!

Lily S., USA

Todd and Cathy are right that listening to Zen Parenting Radio will make you feel outstanding! I just love Todd and Cathy and listening to Zen Parenting Radio always brings a smile to my face. The way they parent and live life is so in alignment with my own values and listening to Zen Parenting Radio this past year has made me a better mother, wife, school psychologist, and human being. Listening also helps restore my views on humanity when life gets me down. It also makes me feel less alone and recommitted to my desire/intention of being an aware parent. As an aside, I love Cathys books and have read all 3 and they are amazing. I have turned friends on and one even began listening before she got pregnant and it is a joy to get to share our love for Todd and Cathy and Zen Parenting Radio.

Enlightening podcast

Grateful parent in Colorado

Cathy and Todd, First I would like to thank you for your work. I found ZPR a year ago at just the right time. I am sorting through what I want to keep in my parenting and what I want to move away from. Your show has opened a whole new approach to living and parenting that feels like “moving toward the light”. For this, I am forever grateful. Thank you for the light you bring to the world.

jim pruett
11/24/2017 at 3:57 am

I enjoy your sticht.

Perhaps you could somehow corral the fact that women more often hellicopter their kids and dad don’t.

I could go on an on, but aggressive behavior (hellicopter) always wins over laissez faire (dad) behavior.

It makes dads powerless to build kids as they see fit.

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