as they try to change their worlds….are immune to your consultations, they’re quite aware of what they’re going through – David Bowie’s famous line from the song “Changes” sums up our misunderstanding of children today. Todd is sick of hearing people say kids are more spoiled than ever or kids are narcissistic, it was never like that when I was young….The Myth of The Spoiled Child“, a book by Alfie Kohn, proves that these assertions are simply not true.

We play a few clips from the documentary “Moving Forward” – it helps us understand and respect the impact we have on our children.  More specifically we discuss the importance of two things that go wrong in childhood- things that should not happen, but do (abuse, neglect, etc.) and things that should happen, but don’t (have you ever heard of the term proximal abandonment?) The full feature can be found on Netflix, but you can watch a 30 minute clip by clicking here.  

We also discuss some improvements we have made to Be U, Inc, and how Cathy and I scared our kids by coming home an hour later than we promised – listen to how we navigated this challenging situation.

Other Resources

If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.

Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2

Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.

Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group.  Email me @

Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here.

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