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Cathy and Todd discuss poetry, Frozen 2, & The ZPR Holiday Calendar 2:20 Hunting Ground Screening Announcement 5:30  A Prescription of Poetry to Help Patients Speak Their Minds 9:47 Otherwise by Jane Kenyon 25:28  Canvas People- Text “Zen” to 64000 to receive their popular 11 by 14 photo canvases for free.har 15:52 Idina Menzel, Evan Rachel Wood – Show Yourself 26:35 ZPR Holiday Calendar 49:35 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 2020 Zen ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the new film “It’s A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood” as well as a quick take on women’s menstruation. 1:48 More Female Athletes Talk About a Taboo: Their Periods 13:00 Hylands Earache drops 13:56 A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood discussion 41:45 Threads Worldwide 49:35 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Planes, Trains, and Automobiles and why it’s become everybody’s favorite Thanksgiving movie. Planes, Trains and Automobiles is a 1987 American buddy film written, produced, and directed by John Hughes. The film stars Steve Martin as Neal Page, a high strung marketing executive, and John Candy as Del Griffith, a goodhearted but annoying shower curtain ring salesman. They share a three day odyssey of misadventures trying to get Neal home to Chicago in time for Thanksgiving with his family ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Imago Dialogue as introduced by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt’s book titled Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and why it could help your relationships. 6:48 Foundation for Imago Dialogue 19:04 Canvas People- Text “Zen” to 64000 to receive their popular 11 by 14 photo canvases for free.har 27:22 Mirroring 35:05 Validation 41:29 Empathy 49:35 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. Relationship Problems? This Marriage ...
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GoodFellas (1990)

Todd and Cathy discuss GoodFellas and why Tommy is funny like a clown. Goodfellas (stylized GoodFellas) is a 1990 American crime film directed by Martin Scorsese. It is an adaptation of the 1985 non-fiction book Wiseguy by Nicholas Pileggi, who co-wrote the screenplay with Scorsese. The film narrates the rise and fall of mob associate Henry Hill and his friends and family from 1955 to 1980 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to “feel felt” and how to attune to your partner and children. They also explain why it’s important to understand your child’s experience and not deny their reality. 23:00 Canvas People- Text “Zen” to 64000 to receive their popular 11 by 14 photo canvases for free. 56:05 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Anna Quindlin’s quote, “The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself”, and how we can help our kids understand this at an early age. They discuss the anxiety kids feel to do everything right, and why kids from high-achieving schools are now considered “high risk”. 19:48 Hylands Ear Ache Drops Hylands.com/ear-pain 35:55 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid ...
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We had two special guests on the podcast today – Rosalind Wiseman and our daughter Jacey – you don’t want to miss this discussion about dignity, respect, Euphoria, sex ed, boy group chats and of course, Mean Girls.  You can learn more about Rosalind and her work @ https://culturesofdignity.com 4:20 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 7:03 Mean Girls & Queen Bees & Wannabees 11:15 Hollywood high school vs real high school 11:50 Euphoria ...
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Pretty in Pink (1986)

Cathy and Todd discuss Pretty in Pink and why “I just want them to know that they didn’t break me” still makes an impact 33 years later. Pretty in Pink is a 1986 American teen romantic comedy film about love and social cliques in American high schools in the 1980s. A cult classic,[3][4] it is commonly identified as a “Brat Pack” film. It was directed by Howard Deutch, produced by Lauren Shuler Donner, and written by John Hughes, who also served as co-executive producer ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between self-compassion and self-esteem and why only one is healthy for the individual and family. They share the three components of self-compassion shared by Kristin Neff, and discuss her impact on Brenè Brown and others. 4:06 Cathy’s temperature fluctuations 9:44 Self-compassion 12:14 Stewart Smalley with Michael Jordan 51:44 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. Dan Harris interview with Kristen Neff self-compassion.org 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the Adverse Childhood Experiences test, and why California Surgeon General Nadine Burke Harris plans to incorporate it into early-childhood wellness screenings. They discuss how an ACE score determines the long-term health of a child, and why understanding an ACE score can help deepen our self-awareness and evolve our parenting. 51:44 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime | Nadine Burke Harris Dax ...
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St. Elmo’s Fire (1985)

Cathy and Todd discuss classic 80’s St. Elmo’s Fire, a favorite and a prominent movie of the brat pack genre.  Recently watching it again is it as good as they remember?   St. Elmo’s Fire is a 1985 American coming-of-age film directed by Joel Schumacher. The movie, starring Emilio Estevez, Rob Lowe, Andrew McCarthy, Demi Moore, Judd Nelson, Ally Sheedy, and Mare Winningham, centers on a clique of recent graduates of Washington, D.C.’s Georgetown University, and their adjustment to post-university life and the responsibilities of adulthood. This film ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk about money and responsibility with your older kids. They discuss Rupture and Repair and how to recognize your own baggage so you can communicate effectively (rather than defensively). 6:50 Tony Porter A Call To Men 9:30 Listeners question regarding teenager driving responsibilities 39:10 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free ...
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Todd and Cathy interview author/podcaster and all-around amazing guy- Rob Bell 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events ...
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Unbelievable

Cathy and Todd discuss Netflix’s Unbelievable and why reactions to traumatic experiences are varying and unpredictable. Unbelievable is an American web television drama miniseries starring Toni Collette, Merritt Wever, and Kaitlyn Dever. It is based on reporting by T. Christian Miller and Ken Armstrong originally published by ProPublica and The Marshall Project, about a series of rapes in Washington and Colorado.[1] The show was co-created by Susannah Grant, Ayelet Waldman, and Michael Chabon, with Grant, Michael Chabon, Ayelet Waldman, Sarah Timberman, Carl Beverly, and Katie Couric as executive producers. It was released on September 13, 2019 on Netflix.[2][3] ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the different types Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) and why it’s important to recognize our own experiences and blindspots. They discuss Malcolm Gladwell’s new book, Talking to Strangers, and how it can help us think in a more nuanced and expansive way. 4:10 Chance The Rapper’s paternity leave 8:02 Malcom Gladwell’s interview with Oprah 11:02 Childhood Emotional Neglect 39:10 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 40:15 CEN Questionnaire 2020 Zen ...
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In the second half of this two part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with friend Dr. John Duffy about his new book Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: A Complete Guide to Your Child’s Stressed, Depressed, Expanded, Amazing Adolescence They discuss weed, gaming, identity traffic,  and much more. 9:58 Is it ok for kids to know mom is seeing a therapist 11:00 Identity traffic 15:30 Worlds collide by George Costanza 17:10 Weed ...
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Jerry Maguire (1996)

Cathy and Todd discuss Jerry Maguire and why a mission statement can lead to meaning and intimacy. Jerry Maguire is a 1996 American romantic comedy-drama sports film written, produced, and directed by Cameron Crowe, and stars Tom Cruise, Cuba Gooding Jr. and Renée Zellweger. Produced in part by long time Simpsons producer James L. Brooks, it was inspired by sports agent Leigh Steinberg, who acted as technical consultant on the crew.[2][3][4] It was released in North American theaters on December 13, 1996, produced by Gracie Films and distributed by TriStar Pictures. The film ...
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Todd and Cathy talk with friend Dr. John Duffy about his new book Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: A Complete Guide to Your Child’s Stressed, Depressed, Expanded, Amazing Adolescence They discuss alcohol, family secrets, the 5 commandments of parenting and much more. 9:15 Working with teenagers 10:00 Julie 11:44 Table of contents 13:05 Go to school on teenagers 15:43 The debate 24:24 Is there one way to parent 26:30 John Duffy’s foundational ...
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Shawshank Redemption (1994)

Cathy+Todd discuss The Shawshank Redemption (#1 IMDB movie of all time), and why some endings are deserved. The Shawshank Redemption is a 1994 American drama film written and directed by Frank Darabont, based on the 1982 Stephen King novella Rita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption. It tells the story of banker Andy Dufresne (Tim Robbins), who is sentenced to life in Shawshank State Penitentiary for the murder of his wife and her lover, despite his claims of innocence. Over the following two decades, ...
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Cathy+Todd introduce the speakers for the 5th annual Zen Parenting Conference, February 28+29, 2020. They share why there’s more to love, more to learn, and MORE TO THE STORY. The 2020 conference is for parents, educators, therapists and definitely TEENS. Go to zenparentingradio.com and click events for your early-bird tickets! Only $25 for a teen ticket! 5:03 Rachel Simmons 14:36 Tony Porter 32:04 Dr. John Duffy 42:30 Team Zen 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss a powerful tool for understanding ourselves and the people in our lives called the Enneagram – it’s a system of nine personality types that combines traditional wisdom with modern psychology. They discuss the light and dark of each number and why understanding the different types develops self-compassion and empathy for others. 6:48 History and intro of the Enneagram 20:53 Type 1- The Reformer or Perfectionist 23:02 Type 2- The Helper/Giver 27:36 ...
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Cathy and Todd breakdown the manipulation tactic known as gaslighting, where the goal is to abuse or control through lying, manipulating, and destabilizing. They discuss how it can be used by partners, parents, friends, bosses, and the political system, and why self-awareness and reality testing are essential to keep yourself from being victimized. They also discuss Norway’s approach to childhood sports and how its contributed to their record-setting number of Olympic medals. Team Zen- 0 ...
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Cathy+Todd discuss Dead Poets Society and share why Mr. Keating is the teacher we all need. Dead Poets Society is a 1989 American drama film directed by Peter Weir, written by Tom Schulman, and starring Robin Williams. Set in 1959 at the fictional elite conservative Vermont boarding school Welton Academy,[4] it tells the story of an English teacher who inspires his students through his teaching of poetry. The film received critical acclaim and was a box office success. It won the BAFTA Award for Best Film,[5] the César ...
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Say Anything (1989)

Cathy and Todd discuss Say Anything and share why Lloyd and Diane’s love and friendship inspired us to be better people. Say Anything … is a 1989 American romantic comedy-drama film written and directed by Cameron Crowe in his directorial debut. The film follows the romance between Lloyd Dobler (John Cusack), an average student, and Diane Court (Ione Skye), the class valedictorian, immediately after their graduation from high school. In 2002, Entertainment Weekly ranked Say Anything … as the greatest modern movie romance, and it was ranked ...
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We couldn’t tape a show this week because Todd was sick ☹, so this is our Pop Culturing Podcast where we talk about the movie Say Anything… (1989) – we share why Lloyd and Diane’s love and friendship inspired us to be better people. We will return to our regularly scheduled programming next week! Say Anything … is a 1989 American romantic comedy-drama film written and directed by Cameron Crowe in his directorial debut. The film follows the romance between Lloyd Dobler ...
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Sex and the City

Cathy+Todd discuss the television series Sex and the City and share why these four women became our friends. Sex and the City is an American romantic comedy-drama television series created by Darren Star and produced by HBO. Broadcast from 1998 until 2004, the original run of the show had a total of 94 episodes. Throughout its six-year run, the show received contributions from various producers, writers, and directors, principally Michael Patrick King. Series Trailer ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the benefit of mental health days after a law passed in Oregon allowing them to be excused. They also discuss the light and dark side of empathy, and how pain and challenge is a an opportunity to become more compassionate toward ourselves and others. The discuss post-traumatic growth and how we are hard-wired to help people in need, especially if we relate to their experience. 2:23 Mental health days 16:55 Hidden ...
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8th Grade (2018)

Cathy and Todd discuss 2018’s 8th Grade and why Kayla really is the coolest girl in the world. Eighth Grade is a 2018 American comedy-drama film written and directed by Bo Burnham (in his feature directorial debut). The coming-of-age story follows the life and struggles of an eighth-grader, played by Elsie Fisher, during her last week of classes before graduating to high school. She struggles with social anxiety but produces vlogs giving life advice ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss why alone time or time away from your partner can be healthy and connective. They share the benefits and discuss the balance of togetherness and individuation. They share why it’s important to keep a sense of self and why the healthiest partnerships exist within the paradox of safety and adventure. 2:06 Should we have different words for trauma? 11:52 Being apart to come together 23:30 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Big Little Lies and the amazing actresses and plot lines that make this show a phenomenon. They discuss the differences between this season and last season, share some of the characters best lines and interactions, and process how the adults are like kids and the kids are like adults ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Stranger Things Season 3 and how it deals with grief, trauma, and growing up. They also discuss the “believe women” theme and all of the obvious and less obvious 80’s references. 45:45 Welcomb- Lice & Removal Kit 1:06:55 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Todd Adams Coaching Team Zen- Enter ...
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Swingers (1996)

Cathy+Todd discuss Swingers, a funny, heartfelt, and effortlessly cool 90’s comedy classic staring Vince Vaughn and Jon Favreau. Swingers is a 1996 American comedy-drama film about the lives of single, unemployed actors living on the ‘eastside’ of Hollywood, California during the 1990s swing revival. Written by Jon Favreau and directed by Doug Liman, the film starred Favreau and Vince Vaughn, and also featured performances by Ron Livingston and Heather Graham. A critical and commercial hit, the film helped propel Favreau, Vaughn, Graham, and Livingston to stardom, while also launching Liman’s ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how we all have different approaches to challenging situations, and why there isn’t one way to speak up or solve a problem. They discuss how we can help children build a “self-awareness muscle” through question-asking and curiosity, and why understanding and honoring who we are is a life-long endeavor. 7:05 Random observations on a Monday afternoon (quick takes) 15:40 Two boys holding hands 20:45 Different ways to diffuse an intense situation ...
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Bridesmaids (2011)

Cathy and Todd discuss 2011’s Bridesmaids and the power of female comedians. Bridesmaids is a 2011 American comedy film directed by Paul Feig, written by Annie Mumolo and Kristen Wiig, and produced by Judd Apatow, Barry Mendel, and Clayton Townsend. The plot centers on Annie (Wiig), who suffers a series of misfortunes after being asked to serve as maid of honor for her best friend, Lillian, played by Maya Rudolph. Rose Byrne, Melissa McCarthy, Ellie Kemper, and Wendi McLendon-Covey co-star as Lillian’s bridesmaids, with Chris O’Dowd, Rebel Wilson, Matt Lucas, Michael Hitchcock, Jon Hamm, and Jill Clayburgh, in ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Jon Krakauer’s book Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town and the documentary the Bystander Moment (ZPR and The Tribe Men’s Group are hosting a free screening of this movie at the Elmhurst Public Library on July 9th at 7 pm). They discuss the statistics and trauma of sexual assault, and the why it’s important to talk to our kids about entitlement, desire, and consent. They explain what ...
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To celebrate their 500th episode and 8 years of podcasting, Todd and Cathy talk with their daughters Jacey (16), Camryn (14), and Skylar (11) about their experiences with “zen” parenting, and discuss the issues confronting teens and pre-teens today. Todd and Cathy also announce the launch of their new podcast, Pop Culturing – they discuss movies, tv shows and books, and break down key moments and little-known facts to touch upon underlying themes of self-awareness ...
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Stand by Me (1986)

Cathy and Todd discuss 1986’s Stand by Me and the importance of male friendship. Stand by Me is a 1986 American coming-of-age film directed by Rob Reiner and starring Wil Wheaton, River Phoenix, Corey Feldman, and Jerry O’Connell (in his debut film.) The film is based on Stephen King‘s 1982 novella The Body. Its title is derived from Ben E. King‘s eponymous song, which plays over the ending credits. Stand by Me tells the fictional story of four boys in a small town in 1959 Oregon who go on a ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss some questions that Lori Gottlieb addresses in her book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and share their own experiences with being the practitioner and the patient. 1:07 Thrifty McSavesalot 3:05 Maybe you should talk to someone 5:22 Do patients ever bore you? 15:06 Are there clients you don’t like? 17:32 What are you like outside the office? 26:22 Welcomb- Lice & Removal Kit 27:39 Why don’t you give advice? 40:00 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how fatherhood is being redefined and expanded as we learn more about ourselves and gender, Team Zen, Taylor Swift and much more… 4:24 Team Zen Clip 6:40 Cleo Wade quote on fathers 24:42 Welcomb- Lice & Removal Kit 45:00 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Todd Adams Coaching Team ...
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A Star is Born (2018)

Cathy & Todd bring you their second Pop Culturing episode with a discussion about the highly-rated, A Star is Born with Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper ...
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Parenthood (1989)

Cathy & Todd bring you their first Pop Culturing Podcast episode with their discussion about the classic comedy, Parenthood and why it stands the test of time. Parenthood is a 1989 American comedy-drama film with an ensemble cast that includes Steve Martin, Tom Hulce, Rick Moranis, Martha Plimpton, Joaquin Phoenix, Keanu Reeves, Jason Robards, Mary Steenburgen, and Dianne Wiest ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Sheryl Paul’s book The Wisdom of Anxiety, and why anxiety is an opportunity to be curious rather than afraid. They discuss how compassion, stillness, and gratitude play a role in understanding and coping with anxiety, and why anxiety is a wound and a messenger. They also discuss the Equal Rights Amendment and how it hasn’t yet been ratified by 38 states. 2:54 John Oliver’s take on the Equal Rights Amendment 14:02 ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Sister Joan Chittister and her new book The Time is Now: A Call to Uncommon Courage. They discuss civil discourse, why we get our loves out of order, and why we yearn for the genuine. They discuss why self-care is the first step toward bettering our partnerships, parenting, and engagement in community and activism. 20:21 Is your computer backed up?  No?  Checkout Backblaze and get gimmick free, unlimited, cloud backup for ...
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Todd and Cathy talk with Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up. They discuss emotional labor, how it affects partnership and parenting, and why it needs to be an evolving and ongoing conversation. Gemma will be taking questions during our Team Zen talk on June 4th – click here to join Team Zen and participate. 1:49 What is emotional labor? 6:08 “Tell me what to do.”  Helping vs being in charge of the household 8:00 Is ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss why the new laws in Alabama and other states strip women of their reproductive and human rights. They discuss how we have to take a wider view and not assume everyone has access to the same resources or education. They discuss how men make these decisions but remove themselves from what should be legislated or criminalized, and how we could refocus our energy to educate and support all communities. This episode ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss girls and stress and play clips from Rich Roll’s interview with Under Pressure author Lisa Damour. They also discuss the conflict between James Charles and Tati Westbrook, and how to talk to boys about being a bystander. 1:06 Tribe Men’s Group https://tribemensgroup.org/ 2:40 Bystander Moment Screening on July 9th–  View Trailer Here 3:50 Women’s Reproductive Rights 10:00 James Charles discussion 17:25 Lisa D’Amoure Intro 19:36 What should parents be worried about? ...
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Cathy and Todd talk with Former New York Times reporter KJ Dell’Antonio about her book How to be a Happier Parent. They discuss some common issues that challenge parents, and explore how to decrease the stress and find more joy. Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Todd Adams Coaching https://kjdellantonia.com/ Team Zen- Enter ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how people and organizations are both light and dark, and why it’s important to recognize this in ourselves. They discuss the You Tube Original Show Cobra Kai, specifically the nostalgia and surprises, and how all the characters are multidimensional and imperfect. They also share Carol Cadwalladr’s TED Talk where she calls out the Titans of Tech and Ricky Henderson’s Baseball Hall of Fame speech. 2:57 Ricky Henderson 6:48 Carol Cadwalladr’s Ted ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss a sports psychologist Dr. Michael Gervais interview on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard.  They discuss the difference between being the best and being your best. 4:42 Don’t tell your kids they can be president 13:55 Being the best vs being your best 18:38 Friday Night Lights clip 23:42 Ricky Henderson 26:54 Dax on #metoo 38:10 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Team Zen- ...
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