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Cathy and Todd discuss how to give ourselves permission to change or try something new. They share some wisdom from Oprah’s new book The Path Made Clear, and discuss why trusting and honoring ourselves can strengthen our relationships. 0:23 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Don Wall Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Todd Adams Coaching Rob Bell / ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Greg McKeown’s book Essentialism about how we can do less, but better. They discuss how to figure out what’s essential, how to let go of what we no longer need, and how essentialism relates to KonMari and the movie City Slickers. 3:50 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  6:14 Essentialism by Greg McKeown 1:00:26 Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how parenting experts can appear to contradict each other (even when their information is valid), and why we need to know our family and trust our instincts when making parenting decisions. They discuss Gabor Matè’s interview on the Goop podcast, Lori Gottlieb’s interview on NPR’s Fresh Air, and they share MILCK’s #ICANTKEEPQUIET project. 2:53 Marianne Williamson 5:49 Milck’s #Icantkeepquiet 13:31 Teen boys rated their female classmates based on looks. The girls ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the lessons from the longest study about happiness from the Harvard Study on Adult Development. They discuss Steven Pinker’s data about the world getting better, and what Bill Gates and Warren Buffet both recommend for a happy life. 3:28 Why the “why” is important 6:15 Basics of the Harvard study 19:17 Boogie Wipes– enter coupon code “zen” for $5.00 off plus free shipping (>$25 order) 20:47 The power of happy childhoods 39:52 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss public shaming and why responsibility, humility, and reflection need to be a part of the process. They discuss John Oliver’s interview with Monica Lewinsky and the college admission scandal. 25:26 Boogie Wipes– enter coupon code “zen” for $5.00 off plus free shipping (>$25 order) 39:19 ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “zen25” to get 25% off your baseline test. 42:36 Team Zen 45:13 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy ...
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Cathy and Todd speak about the most impactful moments of this year’s conference. 16:03 Boogie Wipes– enter coupon code “zen” for $5.00 off plus free shipping (>$25 order) 37:44  ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “zen25” to get 25% off your baseline test. 54:40 Team Zen 55:55 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check out the bald headed beauty Jeremy Kraft @ Avid  Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Team Zen- Enter coupon ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Dax Shepard’s interview with Dr. John Gottman, and discuss his research around marriage, parenting, sex, and the key to longevity. 2:00 Shake Shack 4:38 Dax Shepard/ John Gottman Intro 7:42 Labeling kids 15:40 Differences b/w boys and girls 23:58 Boogie Wipes– enter coupon code “zen” for $5.00 off plus free shipping (>$25 order) 25:59 Tools in the relationship tool box 34:05 Sex & relationship 39:24 Bridesmaids 40:06 ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter ...
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This is our first video podcast.  We feature the highlight reel to our annual Zen Parenting Conference.  Enjoy!!! (Note: If you are on our website, please click the embedded video below to watch!) Learn more about this year’s Zen Parenting Conference, scheduled for March 8 & 9! ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss why parental self-awareness is essential when our kids are making their life decisions. They discuss how our history plays a role in what we think is best for our kids, and why we need to be clear about what “success” means. They discuss why what worked for us may not work for them, and why staying connected is dependent on honest and vulnerable communication. 5:11 Amazon Alexa Skill 6:50 Question- Mom ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between a punitive (inflicting punishment) and restorative perspective (seeking to understand and address what happened to all involved), and why it’s important to recognize how we parent and why. They discuss why a restorative approach necessitates self-awareness and mindfulness, and why our willingness to effectively communicate with our kids about choices will help them with their decision-making as adults. 1:24 Avid Painting & Remodeling 2:49 Discussed blog titled … ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss why focusing on simple allows other things to flow more easily, and why aligning with what feels right allows determination, grit, and curiosity to show up naturally. They discuss why Equifinality (the fact that there are many different pathways to the same outcome) is important to acknowledge when we are making choices for ourselves or for our children. 4:30 Simplicity, patience, & compassion from the Tao 5:12 Birth stories 10:08 Grit ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the Superbowl and the most impactful commercials, specifically The Washington Post commercial titled Democracy Dies in Darkness. They discuss how the Justice Department minimized the description of domestic violence and why less information can create more problems. They process Lady Gaga’s deposition for Kesha, the Dirty John Podcast, and why connection and listening are the keys to every life relationship. 3:11 Washington Post Superbowl commercial 14:52 ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “zen25” ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the shadow parts of themselves that they pretend aren’t there, and Todd shares an activity where he had to act out the parts he tries hardest to repress. They share why the people who annoy us tend to display traits in ourselves that we don’t want to look at, and why accepting all of our parts keeps us whole and develops our compassion. [2:02] Quick Takes[7:18] Sex Education for the 21st ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the new American Psychological Association (APA) guidelines for men and boys, and why a Gillette ad about healthy masculinity has drawn so much criticism. 3:13 Clip from the Better podcast discussing vaping, jeweling, etc.  Dr. John Duffy 8:44 APA guidelines regarding “traditional masculinity” 25:04 ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “zen25” to get 25% off your baseline test. 26:11 Gillette Ad This Is Water 44:44 ZPR Conference 47:18 Painting or remodeling needs?   Check ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss why instead of looking for truth, we can begin to notice the lies that we consistently tell ourselves. They discuss failure, and why Cody Parkey’s kick during the Bears game became a teachable moment. They talk about extended family, noticing our ego, and what we can learn from the movie Cocktail. 0:55 How to deal with failure by Cody Parkey 12:45 ImPACT Baseline Test– Enter “zen25” to get 25% off your ...
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Take Turns- Podcast #474

Cathy shares an essay by Mark Nepo about partners who are willing to take turns exploring the outer and the inner. They discuss why equality is like an unwinding onion with limitless new things to explore, while focusing on Glenn Close in The Wife and Amy Adams in Vice. They also talk about what “unlikability” means for female candidates, and why it’s important to discuss specifically what makes us like, believe, or pay attention to ...
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Team Zen Podcast #473

Todd and Cathy share different questions asked by Team Zen members during Zen Talks. Team Zen was created based on feedback from listeners – they wished they could ask Cathy+Todd a question, get resources for a specific challenge, and find a supportive and interactive community. Team Zen does all of this, and more. It includes two live ZenTalks a month, a private Facebook page with resources and Q&A, a premium podcast, and an opportunity to ...
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Dark and Light Podcast #472

Cathy and Todd discuss why light and dark are part of the holidays, and why every season has a purpose. They discuss Barbara Brown Taylor’s book, Learning to Walk in the Dark, and why embracing dark can make us more compassionate and integrated people. They discuss the challenges of spiritual bypassing and what Wayne Dyer meant when he said, “Learn to die while you are living”. Todd Adams Coaching For Guys The Tribe Mens Group  ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Jonathan Haidt’s book The Coddling of the American Mind, specifically focusing on the interview with Sam Harris on the Waking Up podcast. They discuss why universities struggle with controversial speakers, why safe spaces were created, and why some people have a hard time viewing emotional pain as valid pain. They process why there are no simple answers, and how each situation carries unique challenges and dynamics that need to be considered ...
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Love Is Help- Podcast #470#

Cathy and Todd introduce four more speakers and four special organizations who will be at the 2019 Zen Parenting Conference. They discuss a podcast featuring Tony Robbins and the author of The Untethered Soul, Michael Singer, and they play a clip from Will Smith about why love is help. 2:05 Conference intro 4:47 Jahmal Cole 9:09 Dr. Alexandra Solomon 11:41 Dr. John Duffy 16:24 Karen Brody 22:10 Moms Demand Action 24:57 My Block My Hood ...
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The Joke- Podcast #469

Cathy and Todd discuss Brandi Carlisle’s song The Joke, and why it was written for people who feel “under-represented, unloved or illegal”. They talk about the newest sexual assault allegations, and what needs to be done to create change. The discuss the dignity of George HW Bush, and why his agenda while in office was surprising. 0:54 I Am Evidence Screening 3:10  Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference 3:58 Team Zen Update 6:52 “Welcome to ...
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Our friend Josh St. Pierre returns to the show to give us an update on his recent kidney transplant (click here to listen to Josh’s first podcast where he shares his story). He shares what it felt like to get the phone call about the potential match, how he’s reflecting and recovering, and why he’s grateful for the people and lessons learned along the way. Click here to learn more about organ donation. Go Fund ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how we tell our story, and how we can frame it in a way that serves us rather than depletes us. They discuss why mindfulness and sharing our story are essential when dealing with trauma, and also when we are parenting and relating to our children. They discuss Mark Epstein’s books, Sharon Salzberg’s path to compassionate teaching, and why Michelle Obama says we need to own our story. 3:55 Narrate your ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Michelle Obama’s new book Becoming, focusing in on some of the best pieces of advice for parents and kids. They discuss why we are always evolving, why growth never ends, and why we should allow our kids (and ourselves) to fail, pivot, and change. 2:23 Don’t rake your leaves 4:15 International Men’s Day discussion 8:00 The power of voices 15:06 Conference Sponsor Rita Hyland Coaching 16:04 “Becoming” by Michelle Obama 17:17 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss anger and how it can be productive, but also be destructive if not monitored. They discuss Pete Davidson’s apology and Lt. Com. Dan Crenshaw’s willingness to accept it on SNL this weekend. They discuss how Bridesmaids and Pitch Perfect allowed the women to be the complex characters, and why Bohemian Rhapsody is so fun to watch. 0:00 Review of “Bohemian Rhapsody 9:55 Sex Ed for the 21st Century Virtual Presentation 11:02 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how fear can be helpful if we are willing to listen and look at what’s it’s trying to say, but destructive if we live from constant state of fear by blaming and dehumanizing. They discuss Dr. Bessel van de Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps Score, and his interview with Krista Tippet on the Being Wise podcast, and how trauma becomes lodged in our bodies and what we can do to move ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss why blame and the belief that we are superior to another causes pain in our family, community and country. They discuss how dehumanization is a weapon to oppress and harm, and why we need to be thoughtful about words we say and write. They also discuss why intimacy coordinators are being used at HBO, why Todd can continue to express himself authentically, and Dax Shepard’s interview with Brenè Brown. 4:05 HBO ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss some great quotes and wisdom gained from Cathy’s weekend with Glennon and Abby at Omega Institute. They discuss why being a “cool girl” is no longer necessary or healthy, why pleasing everyone will exhaust you, and how our wounds can become our greatest source of strength and inspiration. Glennon and Abby are the keynotes at the Zen Parenting Conference on March 8&9, 2019 – get your tickets at zenparentingradio.com. 15:40 Born ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s new book, Daring to Lead, and apply her well-researched leadership principles to the family structure. They discuss why fear is inevitable, how courage can be practiced, and how we can teach and role model leadership in our homes, so our kids can take it into the world. 1:23 Family meeting on certain people not picking up after themselves 4:54 Magic Coffee Table Video 13:07 Dare To Lead- 13:07 Can’t ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss power dynamics within relationships – specifically who has it, how to share it, and how to talk about it. They discuss why taking a measured approach to power – with our kids, in our partnerships, and even on-line – has the potential to teach compassion and deepen relationships. They discuss why stepping back is sometimes necessary, why stepping forward can be powerful, and why This Is Us leads to great family ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the history of not believing women, and why recognizing what we’ve missed and creating change can be messy and difficult. They share clips from a Hidden Brain podcast about how social proof and horizontal action play a role in the #metoo movement, the truth about Anita Hill’s testimony (click here to hear the “You’re Wrong About…” podcast), and why the Duke Lacrosse story became nationally known (click here to see the ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss #WhyIDidntReport and why it’s important to listen, rather than assume we already understand, other people’s stories. They discuss the importance of hearing – women who talk about sexual assault, our spouses, our children – rather than assuming we already understand their experiences. They talk about questioning unconscious bias and share clips from a vulnerable and brave Charles Blow interview. 4:00 Story about the three folks at the airport discussing theology and ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how Todd wants to make his daughters watch the documentary “RBG” and how it’s not working.  They also talk about a dad who wants to force his daughter to attend “optional” soccer practices. They talk about their own struggle of brand vs. mission for Zen Parenting Radio.  Lastly they play a clip from the “flu” episode. 3:12 RBG discussion 11:45 Team Zen-  32:53 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.   33:15 ...
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Cathy and Todd talk with Rea Frey about her new domestic suspense novel, Not Her Daughter. She shares the story behind the book, the conversation it has created, and why it makes the reader question the line between right and wrong. They also discuss modern-day parenting, the trauma of birth, and some real-life kidnapping scares. Not Her Daughter will be made into a major motion picture, and it’s made numerous top book lists for summer, ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how kids can practice self-care and why a mental health day may reduce their anxiety and possibly decrease the odds of physical illness. They also discuss how couples can discuss balance and equity in the home, and how our society views female anger, specifically Serena Williams anger, during the U.S. Open. 1:30 Gemma Hartley’s book- “Fed Up” 2:40 Serena William’s US Open Final 10:02 Guys will say to their wives, “Tell ...
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Boundaries and Compassion Todd and Cathy discuss boundaries and compassion, and how they are threads that run through so many questions posed by parents, especially during Team Zen conversations. They also share why discussing controversial subjects doesn’t need to create more controversy, and why understanding how Fortnite makes kids feel will help explain why the game is so popular. 0:22 Cathy’s apartment @ 454 W. Belmont 6:42 Serena Williams’ “cat suit” 12:13 Stef Curry 15:30 ...
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Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise and 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speaker, about supporting/guiding a child through their first-phone experience. They also discuss recent movies such as 8th Grade, BlacKKKlansman, and the new documentary, America to Me, filmed at Oak Park River Forest High School. 4:34 America To Me Documentary 9:20 Need furniture?  Check out Campaign Save $75 off any sofa, love seat, or chair when you use code ZEN at ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the rituals and habits the set the tone for our days and nights, and why recognizing and understanding our power is the great success determiner. Go to http://zenparentingconference.com    for the details… 7:54 Rituals 23:00 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.   23:15 Need furniture?  Check out Campaign Save $75 off any sofa, loveseat, or chair when you use code ZEN at checkout 28:28 Power http://zenparentingconference.com JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY  ...
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Cathy and Todd announce their 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speakers. They share why you MUST get to know these amazing women, read their books, and get your early-bird tickets to the conference. They discuss the difference between FOMO and JOMO and why JOMO can help us lead healthier and more peaceful lives. Go to http://zenparentingconference.com    for the details… 2:11 JOMO (Joy Of Missing Out) 9:12 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.   9:38 Key notes Abby ...
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Cathy and Todd share a letter from a listener whose son discovers himself through dance, and how this discovery leads to self-aware parenting. It’s an inspirational and emotional story about how to create a connected relationship with your child – you don’t want to miss it. Steve is the father in this story has a part-time photography business which can be found here. Cathy and Todd also discuss Pixar’s Inside Out. See Soren dance below… ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Episode 4 of the series We Are Man Enough where they process the #metoo movement, consent, why it’s important to listen to other people’s stories, and how men can support other men. 34:21 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.  55:28 Team Zen We Are Man Enough Building a culture of consent and respect: A discussion with Mike Domitrz from the Date Safe Project Podcast #347 #Metoo. So What Now? ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Brady Bunch, Serena Williams Wimbledon interview, how to deal with conflict, empathy, and finding out who you can count on for honest, yet compassionate feedback. 2:14 Silver Platters perform 3:39 Serena Williams from Wilmbeldon 6:36 Todd’s blog is criticized as sexist and racist 8:06 Barack Obama’s take on unhealthy masculinity. 15:08 Dylan Marron’s Ted Talk clip 31:13 Team Zen 34:09 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.  34:32 Quote from ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss one of Toby’s quotes from This is Us, and explain why his wisdom could strengthen any relationship. They discuss how to love our inner child without letting it take control, and why there are always only two options, love or fear. They share wisdom from Richard Rohr and Gary Zukov and some humor from Friends. 2:42 This Is Us Clip 9:00 Todd’s birth family examples 19:18 Going into child 27:02 Fear ...
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Todd and Cathy speak with Kara Valentine, co-Founder of Threads Worldwide, an organization that creates life-changing work for women around the world through the fair trade of artisan jewelry. Threads Worldwide was founded in 2011 to give back and weave together a community of women leaders and change-makers. Threads Worldwide JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY  2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss a productive definition of hope based on insight from Parker Palmer and Howard Thurman. They discuss Hannah Gadsby’s Netflix Comedy Special and share why her bravery and willingness to speak up is leading the way. 7:49 Parker Palmer- The Growing Edge 23:06 Hannah Gadsby discussion 59:05  Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.  Hannah Gadsby Netflix special JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY  2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK ...
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Todd and Cathy talk with Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder, partners and cofounders of The Relationship School. Jayson also hosts the Smart Couple Podcast, and Ellen is a therapist with a private practice. They discuss how couples grow and thrive, why men have a harder time focusing on personal growth, and why connection and self-understanding are the keys to an empowered life. 6:49 Jayson’s blog that resonated with Todd- Clip 1 13:16 Jayson’s blog that resonated ...
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Todd and Cathy talk with Patty Monahan, founder of Our Whole Village, a company that specializes in family vacations and adventures. They discuss why travel is so important at every age, why we should teach our children to be global citizens, and why travel creates confident parents and strong families. https://ourwholevillage.com/ JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY  2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events ...
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Cathy and Todd talk with Debbie Reber, author of Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. They discuss why this book is rally cry for all parents raising exceptional children, and why it benefits every parent to listen and understand differences. Debbie also shares 18 powerful “tilts” or paradigm shifts that can change how we see ourselves and our children. Differently Wired http://www.tiltparenting.com/ JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY  2019 ...
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Todd and Cathy talk with Josh St. Pierre, a 42 year old full-time soccer coach who is need of a kidney. Josh explains why live liver and kidney donation is essential and how to figure out if you are a match with someone on the registry. He also shares his story, starting with being diagnosed with kidney failure at 30, and why he is willing to ask for help and speak up for every person ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss a recent emotional labor issue and why it created an important discussion about invisible work. They also discuss the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, and discuss why allowing our darkness and discussing mental wellness is essential. They offer a recipe for fulfillment and share why we need to call women’s sports just “sports”. 2:50 Suicides of Kate Spade & Anthony Bourdain 4:04- Struggling with our own darkness 23:58  Team Zen- ...
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