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Cathy and Todd discuss creating new habits during the pandemic – for some this can add structure, and for others this can feel too overwhelming. They share the difference between people who are enjoying this time of shelter-in-place, and those who are working harder and taking risks so we all can feel safe and cared for. They also discuss the show Alone and why we need to take care of those who are by themselves, ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss an article in the Harvard Law Review titled The Discomfort You Are Feeling is Grief. Grief expert David Kessler explains how we are all feeling anticipatory grief during this pandemic and how to find hope and meaning in our daily experiences. They also discuss how to pull inspiration from Caroline Ingalls (Little House on the Prairie) and the movie Castaway. 5:40 That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief 18:48 4 attributes of ...
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Marvel’s The Avengers[6] (classified under the name Marvel Avengers Assemble in the United Kingdom and Ireland),[3][7] or simply The Avengers, is a 2012 American superhero film based on the Marvel Comics superhero team of the same name, produced by Marvel Studios and distributed by Walt Disney Studios Motion Pictures.[N 1] It is the sixth film in the Marvel Cinematic Universe (MCU). The film was written and directed by Joss Whedon and features an ensemble cast that includes Robert Downey Jr., Chris Evans, Mark Ruffalo, Chris Hemsworth, Scarlett Johansson, and Jeremy Renner as the titular Avengers team, alongside Tom Hiddleston, Clark Gregg, Cobie Smulders, Stellan Skarsgård, and Samuel L. Jackson ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss a few ways to cope with uncertainty and why self-care and emotional well-being is the most important thing right now. 0:00 Tonglen breathing 18:30 Loosen the grip on structure and screen time Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Friend” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. CLICK HERE for a list of all ...
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Artie (Billy Crystal) and Diane (Bette Midler) agree to look after their three grandkids when their type-A helicopter parents need to leave town for work. Problems arise when the kids’ 21st-century behavior collides with Artie and Diane’s old-school methods. Parental Guidance is a 2012 American family comedy film starring Billy Crystal, Bette Midler, Marisa Tomei, and Tom Everett Scott and directed by Andy Fickman.[3] It was released on December 25, 2012.[4][5] It was the final 20th Century Fox film to be financed by Dune Entertainment as part of a deal with ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk to kids about the uncertainty of these times, and why it’s important to focus on the whole rather than the individual. They discuss why it’s ok to let kids sleep and loosen up on your typical structure, and ways to help other people in need. Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the impact of the corona virus, emotional labor, & Kramer’s attitude towards the gas gauge. 1:20 Corona virus update 18:13 Looking for an honest and smart financial advisor?  Look no further than David Serrano.  You can reach him @ 815-370-3780 19:09 Emotional labor 37:38 Taxation upon feminine products 47:44 Avid Painting & Remodeling Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how negative news cycles and uncertainty can leave us feeling tired and overwhelmed. They discuss how to take care of ourselves (it’s a practice!), and how to talk to our kids about their feelings and coping tools. 4:34 It’s OK to be tired 8:50  It’s not about the coronavirus 15:15 Busy 31:13 I’m tired 42:19 The two monks story Gratitude: The Short Film by Louie Schwartzberg 59:59 Avid Painting & Remodeling ...
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Cathy & Todd discuss the highlights and takeaways to the 5th annual Zen Parenting Conference. 3:40 Pre-conference workshops 13:28 Talking to your kids about sex 25:22 Dr. John Duffy 31:39 Rachel Simmons 40:31 Gemma Hartley 42:31 Debbie Reber 44:50 Transgender & non-binary stories 52:10 Tony Porter 59:59 Avid Painting & Remodeling John Duffy: Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety http://MaureenMuldoon.com Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 ...
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Cathy and Todd talk about this classic from 2000 about a teenage journalist writing for Rolling Stone in the early 1970s, his touring with the fictitious rock band Stillwater, and his efforts to get his first cover story published. Almost Famous is a 2000 American comedy-drama film written and directed by Cameron Crowe and starring Billy Crudup, Frances McDormand, Kate Hudson, and Patrick Fugit. It tells the story of a teenage journalist writing for Rolling Stone in the early 1970s, his touring with the fictitious rock band Stillwater, ...
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4:00 Tuesday morning inspiration 12:05 Compassionate partnership 48:22 Avid Painting & Remodeling 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Elizabeth Gilbert’s Valentine’s Day post titled TEN ACTUAL THINGS THAT LOVE HAS SAID TO ME WHEN I WAS ALONE AND AFRAID (FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT NEED IT TODAY). They discuss each one and how they can rewire the way we experience ourselves and the way we see the world. TEN ACTUAL THINGS THAT LOVE HAS SAID TO ME WHEN I WAS ALONE AND AFRAID (FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT NEED IT TODAY❤️) ...
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Cathy & Todd talk about the new Taylor Swift Documentary, Shakira’s and J-Lo’s Superbowl half time show, and other powerful women. 3:54 Quick take #1 ERA Ammendment progress 5:10 Quick take #2 Shaq grieving over the loss of Kobe 9:18 Review of Shakira and J-Lo’s Superbowl performance 17:45  Help your child learn to love math by signing up for your free Prodigy parent account today. Visit www.prodigygame.com/zenparenting/ and click “get your free account” to get ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Fast Times at Ridgemont High from 1982.   Fast Times at Ridgemont High is a 1982 American teen coming-of-age comedy film directed by Amy Heckerling and written by Cameron Crowe, adapted from his 1981 book of the same title. Crowe went undercover at Clairemont High School in San Diego and wrote about his experiences.[3] Trailer: https://youtu.be/vzva_I8WPAg  ...
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Cathy+Todd talk with Heidi Stevens from the Chicago Tribune, and Dr. John Duffy, author of Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety. They discuss having a moral compass, the current political climate, handling Facebook conversations, and of course, parenting. Make sure you subscribe to Heidi and John’s podcast, On Purpose. 1:12:43 Avid Painting & Remodeling https://onpurposepodcast.podbean.com/ 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free ...
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Cocktail (1988)

Todd and Cathy discuss flair bartending and island hookups from the 1988 movie Cocktail. Cocktail is a 1988 American romantic comedy-drama film directed by Roger Donaldson and written by Heywood Gould, whose screenplay was based on his book of the same name. The film tells the story of a young New York City business student, Brian Flanagan, who takes up bartending in order to make ends meet. The film stars Tom Cruise, Bryan Brown and Elisabeth Shue. Trailer: https://youtu.be/Tyd6Dh_6v74 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss why we are always evolving, and share a clip from The Robcast about why humility is essential. They discuss why it’s never too late to excel at sports or other activities, why procrastination may not be such a bad thing, and why Slow TV on Netflix is so soothing. 0:58 Quick Takes Never too late-  Famous people who started their careers later than normal. 13:18  Robcast Seatbelts & Snowflakes 28:56  Cathy’s story of shame spirals ...
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Cathy and Todd continue their discussion about wounds and triggers, and why parts of ourselves need to be acknowledged and validated. They discuss awareness and forgiveness, and why every trigger is an opening and opportunity to heal. 5:23 Wounds & Triggers 26:45 Help your child learn to love math by signing up for your free Prodigy parent account today. Visit www.prodigygame.com/zenparenting/ and click “get your free account” to get started.” 58:39 Painting or remodeling needs?  ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss childhood wounding and why it leads to triggers in adulthood. They discuss how healthy parts of the self can soothe the wounded parts, and why being triggered is like a replaying an old, painful event or message. 10:21 Wounds & Triggers 30:38 Help your child learn to love math by signing up for your free Prodigy parent account today. Visit www.prodigygame.com/zenparenting/ and click “get your free account” to get started.” 57:08 ...
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Todd, Cathy, and their daughter Camryn talk about the Oscar nominations, the snubs, the probable winners, and why this was a good year for movies. Oscar nomination announcements:  https://youtu.be/BEho_CNX43s  Oscars® 2020 will be held on Sunday, February 9, 2020, at the Dolby Theatre® at Hollywood & Highland Center® in Hollywood, and will be televised live on the ABC Television Network at 8 p.m. ET/5 p.m. PT. “Oscars: Live on the Red Carpet” will air at 6:30 ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss “relationship resolutions” for 2020, and why practice and self-compassion are essential when starting a new year. 5:37 Relationship Resolution 21:43 Hylands Earache drops 50:35 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. CLICK HERE for ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss 2020’s Golden Globe Awards. Clips from the podcast: Tom Hanks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-mY-k-y1-5w Kate McKinnon:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1owY3QPg4Bc Ellen DeGeneres:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZU3Hq_UgHE4 ...
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Cathy and Todd interview Dr. Siegel’s newest book- The Power of Showing Up– How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become & How Their Brains Get Wired. 2:58 The Strange Research Study 7:16 Children adapt to their experiences differently 10:12 % of kids who are securely attached to their parents. 12:55 How well are we doing regarding older children? 17:12 Difference between attachment science vs attachment parenting 23:44 How trauma is like a dog bite ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Dr. Thomas Boyce’s book, The Orchid and the Dandelion and how all children can thrive if given the right environment. They also discuss neurodiversity, This is Us, some of the best movies of the year, and what’s in store for 2020. 3:24 Fallon Sherock- darts champion 9:32 Bechdel Test – biggest movies 13:30 Dandelions & Orchids- sensitive kids vs kids who are unfazed by their surroundings 31:31 You Are Light by ...
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It’s a double feature as Cathy and Todd interview the CEO of A Call To Men Tony Porter & Author of Raising Good Humans Hunter Clarke-Fields. 32:39 You Are Light by Aaron Becker 48:43 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. A Call To Men Raising Good Humans 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss why women are expected to take a man’s last name, and why this can be an important discussion and decision for couples. They discuss the meaning of Miss, Ms, and Mrs., why Queen and Slim and Marriage Story are important movies, and why Carol Spinney, the man who played Big Bird will be missed. 3:30 Sesame Street Carol Spinney dies 6:17 Maiden names 16:00 Fragile male ego 23:45 Ms, Miss, Mrs.??? ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss poetry, Frozen 2, The ZPR Holiday Calendar and setting an intention. 2:20 Hunting Ground Screening Announcement 5:30  A Prescription of Poetry to Help Patients Speak Their Minds 9:47 Otherwise by Jane Kenyon 25:28  Canvas People- Text “Zen” to 64000 to receive their popular 11 by 14 photo canvases for free.har 15:52 Idina Menzel, Evan Rachel Wood – Show Yourself 26:35 ZPR Holiday Calendar 49:35 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the new film “It’s A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood” as well as a quick take on women’s menstruation. 1:48 More Female Athletes Talk About a Taboo: Their Periods 13:00 Hylands Earache drops 13:56 A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood discussion 41:45 Threads Worldwide 49:35 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Planes, Trains, and Automobiles and why it’s become everybody’s favorite Thanksgiving movie. Planes, Trains and Automobiles is a 1987 American buddy film written, produced, and directed by John Hughes. The film stars Steve Martin as Neal Page, a high strung marketing executive, and John Candy as Del Griffith, a goodhearted but annoying shower curtain ring salesman. They share a three day odyssey of misadventures trying to get Neal home to Chicago in time for Thanksgiving with his family ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Imago Dialogue as introduced by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt’s book titled Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and why it could help your relationships. 6:48 Foundation for Imago Dialogue 19:04 Canvas People- Text “Zen” to 64000 to receive their popular 11 by 14 photo canvases for free.har 27:22 Mirroring 35:05 Validation 41:29 Empathy 49:35 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. Relationship Problems? This Marriage ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss GoodFellas and why Tommy is funny like a clown. Goodfellas (stylized GoodFellas) is a 1990 American crime film directed by Martin Scorsese. It is an adaptation of the 1985 non-fiction book Wiseguy by Nicholas Pileggi, who co-wrote the screenplay with Scorsese. The film narrates the rise and fall of mob associate Henry Hill and his friends and family from 1955 to 1980 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to “feel felt” and how to attune to your partner and children. They also explain why it’s important to understand your child’s experience and not deny their reality. 23:00 Canvas People- Text “Zen” to 64000 to receive their popular 11 by 14 photo canvases for free. 56:05 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Anna Quindlin’s quote, “The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself”, and how we can help our kids understand this at an early age. They discuss the anxiety kids feel to do everything right, and why kids from high-achieving schools are now considered “high risk”. 19:48 Hylands Ear Ache Drops Hylands.com/ear-pain 35:55 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid ...
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We had two special guests on the podcast today – Rosalind Wiseman and our daughter Jacey – you don’t want to miss this discussion about dignity, respect, Euphoria, sex ed, boy group chats and of course, Mean Girls.  You can learn more about Rosalind and her work @ https://culturesofdignity.com 4:20 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 7:03 Mean Girls & Queen Bees & Wannabees 11:15 Hollywood high school vs real high school 11:50 Euphoria ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Pretty in Pink and why “I just want them to know that they didn’t break me” still makes an impact 33 years later. Pretty in Pink is a 1986 American teen romantic comedy film about love and social cliques in American high schools in the 1980s. A cult classic,[3][4] it is commonly identified as a “Brat Pack” film. It was directed by Howard Deutch, produced by Lauren Shuler Donner, and written by John Hughes, who also served as co-executive producer ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between self-compassion and self-esteem and why only one is healthy for the individual and family. They share the three components of self-compassion shared by Kristin Neff, and discuss her impact on Brenè Brown and others. 4:06 Cathy’s temperature fluctuations 9:44 Self-compassion 12:14 Stewart Smalley with Michael Jordan 51:44 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. Dan Harris interview with Kristen Neff self-compassion.org 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the Adverse Childhood Experiences test, and why California Surgeon General Nadine Burke Harris plans to incorporate it into early-childhood wellness screenings. They discuss how an ACE score determines the long-term health of a child, and why understanding an ACE score can help deepen our self-awareness and evolve our parenting. 51:44 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime | Nadine Burke Harris Dax ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss classic 80’s St. Elmo’s Fire, a favorite and a prominent movie of the brat pack genre.  Recently watching it again is it as good as they remember?   St. Elmo’s Fire is a 1985 American coming-of-age film directed by Joel Schumacher. The movie, starring Emilio Estevez, Rob Lowe, Andrew McCarthy, Demi Moore, Judd Nelson, Ally Sheedy, and Mare Winningham, centers on a clique of recent graduates of Washington, D.C.’s Georgetown University, and their adjustment to post-university life and the responsibilities of adulthood. This film ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk about money and responsibility with your older kids. They discuss Rupture and Repair and how to recognize your own baggage so you can communicate effectively (rather than defensively). 6:50 Tony Porter A Call To Men 9:30 Listeners question regarding teenager driving responsibilities 39:10 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free ...
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Todd and Cathy interview author/podcaster and all-around amazing guy- Rob Bell 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events ...
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Unbelievable

Cathy and Todd discuss Netflix’s Unbelievable and why reactions to traumatic experiences are varying and unpredictable. Unbelievable is an American web television drama miniseries starring Toni Collette, Merritt Wever, and Kaitlyn Dever. It is based on reporting by T. Christian Miller and Ken Armstrong originally published by ProPublica and The Marshall Project, about a series of rapes in Washington and Colorado.[1] The show was co-created by Susannah Grant, Ayelet Waldman, and Michael Chabon, with Grant, Michael Chabon, Ayelet Waldman, Sarah Timberman, Carl Beverly, and Katie Couric as executive producers. It was released on September 13, 2019 on Netflix.[2][3] ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the different types Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) and why it’s important to recognize our own experiences and blindspots. They discuss Malcolm Gladwell’s new book, Talking to Strangers, and how it can help us think in a more nuanced and expansive way. 4:10 Chance The Rapper’s paternity leave 8:02 Malcom Gladwell’s interview with Oprah 11:02 Childhood Emotional Neglect 39:10 Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. 40:15 CEN Questionnaire 2020 Zen ...
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In the second half of this two part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with friend Dr. John Duffy about his new book Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: A Complete Guide to Your Child’s Stressed, Depressed, Expanded, Amazing Adolescence They discuss weed, gaming, identity traffic,  and much more. 9:58 Is it ok for kids to know mom is seeing a therapist 11:00 Identity traffic 15:30 Worlds collide by George Costanza 17:10 Weed ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Jerry Maguire and why a mission statement can lead to meaning and intimacy. Jerry Maguire is a 1996 American romantic comedy-drama sports film written, produced, and directed by Cameron Crowe, and stars Tom Cruise, Cuba Gooding Jr. and Renée Zellweger. Produced in part by long time Simpsons producer James L. Brooks, it was inspired by sports agent Leigh Steinberg, who acted as technical consultant on the crew.[2][3][4] It was released in North American theaters on December 13, 1996, produced by Gracie Films and distributed by TriStar Pictures. The film ...
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Todd and Cathy talk with friend Dr. John Duffy about his new book Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: A Complete Guide to Your Child’s Stressed, Depressed, Expanded, Amazing Adolescence They discuss alcohol, family secrets, the 5 commandments of parenting and much more. 9:15 Working with teenagers 10:00 Julie 11:44 Table of contents 13:05 Go to school on teenagers 15:43 The debate 24:24 Is there one way to parent 26:30 John Duffy’s foundational ...
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Cathy+Todd discuss The Shawshank Redemption (#1 IMDB movie of all time), and why some endings are deserved. The Shawshank Redemption is a 1994 American drama film written and directed by Frank Darabont, based on the 1982 Stephen King novella Rita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption. It tells the story of banker Andy Dufresne (Tim Robbins), who is sentenced to life in Shawshank State Penitentiary for the murder of his wife and her lover, despite his claims of innocence. Over the following two decades, ...
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Cathy+Todd introduce the speakers for the 5th annual Zen Parenting Conference, February 28+29, 2020. They share why there’s more to love, more to learn, and MORE TO THE STORY. The 2020 conference is for parents, educators, therapists and definitely TEENS. Go to zenparentingradio.com and click events for your early-bird tickets! Only $25 for a teen ticket! 5:03 Rachel Simmons 14:36 Tony Porter 32:04 Dr. John Duffy 42:30 Team Zen 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss a powerful tool for understanding ourselves and the people in our lives called the Enneagram – it’s a system of nine personality types that combines traditional wisdom with modern psychology. They discuss the light and dark of each number and why understanding the different types develops self-compassion and empathy for others. 6:48 History and intro of the Enneagram 20:53 Type 1- The Reformer or Perfectionist 23:02 Type 2- The Helper/Giver 27:36 ...
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Cathy and Todd breakdown the manipulation tactic known as gaslighting, where the goal is to abuse or control through lying, manipulating, and destabilizing. They discuss how it can be used by partners, parents, friends, bosses, and the political system, and why self-awareness and reality testing are essential to keep yourself from being victimized. They also discuss Norway’s approach to childhood sports and how its contributed to their record-setting number of Olympic medals. Team Zen- 0 ...
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Cathy+Todd discuss Dead Poets Society and share why Mr. Keating is the teacher we all need. Dead Poets Society is a 1989 American drama film directed by Peter Weir, written by Tom Schulman, and starring Robin Williams. Set in 1959 at the fictional elite conservative Vermont boarding school Welton Academy,[4] it tells the story of an English teacher who inspires his students through his teaching of poetry. The film received critical acclaim and was a box office success. It won the BAFTA Award for Best Film,[5] the César ...
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