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Love Is Help- Podcast #470#

Cathy and Todd introduce four more speakers and four special organizations who will be at the 2019 Zen Parenting Conference. They discuss a podcast featuring Tony Robbins and the author of The Untethered Soul, Michael Singer, and they play a clip from Will Smith about why love is help. 2:05 Conference intro 4:47 Jahmal Cole 9:09 Dr. Alexandra Solomon 11:41 Dr. John Duffy 16:24 Karen Brody 22:10 Moms Demand Action 24:57 My Block My Hood ...
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The Joke- Podcast #469

Cathy and Todd discuss Brandi Carlisle’s song The Joke, and why it was written for people who feel “under-represented, unloved or illegal”. They talk about the newest sexual assault allegations, and what needs to be done to create change. The discuss the dignity of George HW Bush, and why his agenda while in office was surprising. 0:54 I Am Evidence Screening 3:10  Get Your Brave On ZPR Conference 3:58 Team Zen Update 6:52 “Welcome to ...
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Our friend Josh St. Pierre returns to the show to give us an update on his recent kidney transplant (click here to listen to Josh’s first podcast where he shares his story). He shares what it felt like to get the phone call about the potential match, how he’s reflecting and recovering, and why he’s grateful for the people and lessons learned along the way. Click here to learn more about organ donation. Go Fund ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how we tell our story, and how we can frame it in a way that serves us rather than depletes us. They discuss why mindfulness and sharing our story are essential when dealing with trauma, and also when we are parenting and relating to our children. They discuss Mark Epstein’s books, Sharon Salzberg’s path to compassionate teaching, and why Michelle Obama says we need to own our story. 3:55 Narrate your ...
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Becoming- Podcast #466 (Fixed)

Cathy and Todd discuss Michelle Obama’s new book Becoming, focusing in on some of the best pieces of advice for parents and kids. They discuss why we are always evolving, why growth never ends, and why we should allow our kids (and ourselves) to fail, pivot, and change. 2:23 Don’t rake your leaves 4:15 International Men’s Day discussion 8:00 The power of voices 15:06 Conference Sponsor Rita Hyland Coaching 16:04 “Becoming” by Michelle Obama 17:17 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss anger and how it can be productive, but also be destructive if not monitored. They discuss Pete Davidson’s apology and Lt. Com. Dan Crenshaw’s willingness to accept it on SNL this weekend. They discuss how Bridesmaids and Pitch Perfect allowed the women to be the complex characters, and why Bohemian Rhapsody is so fun to watch. 0:00 Review of “Bohemian Rhapsody 9:55 Sex Ed for the 21st Century Virtual Presentation 11:02 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how fear can be helpful if we are willing to listen and look at what’s it’s trying to say, but destructive if we live from constant state of fear by blaming and dehumanizing. They discuss Dr. Bessel van de Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps Score, and his interview with Krista Tippet on the Being Wise podcast, and how trauma becomes lodged in our bodies and what we can do to move ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss why blame and the belief that we are superior to another causes pain in our family, community and country. They discuss how dehumanization is a weapon to oppress and harm, and why we need to be thoughtful about words we say and write. They also discuss why intimacy coordinators are being used at HBO, why Todd can continue to express himself authentically, and Dax Shepard’s interview with Brenè Brown. 4:05 HBO ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss some great quotes and wisdom gained from Cathy’s weekend with Glennon and Abby at Omega Institute. They discuss why being a “cool girl” is no longer necessary or healthy, why pleasing everyone will exhaust you, and how our wounds can become our greatest source of strength and inspiration. Glennon and Abby are the keynotes at the Zen Parenting Conference on March 8&9, 2019 – get your tickets at zenparentingradio.com. 15:40 Born ...
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Daring To Lead- Podcast #461

Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s new book, Daring to Lead, and apply her well-researched leadership principles to the family structure. They discuss why fear is inevitable, how courage can be practiced, and how we can teach and role model leadership in our homes, so our kids can take it into the world. 1:23 Family meeting on certain people not picking up after themselves 4:54 Magic Coffee Table Video 13:07 Dare To Lead- 13:07 Can’t ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss power dynamics within relationships – specifically who has it, how to share it, and how to talk about it. They discuss why taking a measured approach to power – with our kids, in our partnerships, and even on-line – has the potential to teach compassion and deepen relationships. They discuss why stepping back is sometimes necessary, why stepping forward can be powerful, and why This Is Us leads to great family ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the history of not believing women, and why recognizing what we’ve missed and creating change can be messy and difficult. They share clips from a Hidden Brain podcast about how social proof and horizontal action play a role in the #metoo movement, the truth about Anita Hill’s testimony (click here to hear the “You’re Wrong About…” podcast), and why the Duke Lacrosse story became nationally known (click here to see the ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss #WhyIDidntReport and why it’s important to listen, rather than assume we already understand, other people’s stories. They discuss the importance of hearing – women who talk about sexual assault, our spouses, our children – rather than assuming we already understand their experiences. They talk about questioning unconscious bias and share clips from a vulnerable and brave Charles Blow interview. 4:00 Story about the three folks at the airport discussing theology and ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how Todd wants to make his daughters watch the documentary “RBG” and how it’s not working.  They also talk about a dad who wants to force his daughter to attend “optional” soccer practices. They talk about their own struggle of brand vs. mission for Zen Parenting Radio.  Lastly they play a clip from the “flu” episode. 3:12 RBG discussion 11:45 Team Zen-  32:53 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.   33:15 ...
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Cathy and Todd talk with Rea Frey about her new domestic suspense novel, Not Her Daughter. She shares the story behind the book, the conversation it has created, and why it makes the reader question the line between right and wrong. They also discuss modern-day parenting, the trauma of birth, and some real-life kidnapping scares. Not Her Daughter will be made into a major motion picture, and it’s made numerous top book lists for summer, ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how kids can practice self-care and why a mental health day may reduce their anxiety and possibly decrease the odds of physical illness. They also discuss how couples can discuss balance and equity in the home, and how our society views female anger, specifically Serena Williams anger, during the U.S. Open. 1:30 Gemma Hartley’s book- “Fed Up” 2:40 Serena William’s US Open Final 10:02 Guys will say to their wives, “Tell ...
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Boundaries and Compassion Todd and Cathy discuss boundaries and compassion, and how they are threads that run through so many questions posed by parents, especially during Team Zen conversations. They also share why discussing controversial subjects doesn’t need to create more controversy, and why understanding how Fortnite makes kids feel will help explain why the game is so popular. 0:22 Cathy’s apartment @ 454 W. Belmont 6:42 Serena Williams’ “cat suit” 12:13 Stef Curry 15:30 ...
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Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise and 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speaker, about supporting/guiding a child through their first-phone experience. They also discuss recent movies such as 8th Grade, BlacKKKlansman, and the new documentary, America to Me, filmed at Oak Park River Forest High School. 4:34 America To Me Documentary 9:20 Need furniture?  Check out Campaign Save $75 off any sofa, love seat, or chair when you use code ZEN at ...
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Ritual & Power Podcast #452

Todd and Cathy discuss the rituals and habits the set the tone for our days and nights, and why recognizing and understanding our power is the great success determiner. Go to http://zenparentingconference.com    for the details… 7:54 Rituals 23:00 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.   23:15 Need furniture?  Check out Campaign Save $75 off any sofa, loveseat, or chair when you use code ZEN at checkout 28:28 Power http://zenparentingconference.com JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY  ...
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Cathy and Todd announce their 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speakers. They share why you MUST get to know these amazing women, read their books, and get your early-bird tickets to the conference. They discuss the difference between FOMO and JOMO and why JOMO can help us lead healthier and more peaceful lives. Go to http://zenparentingconference.com    for the details… 2:11 JOMO (Joy Of Missing Out) 9:12 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.   9:38 Key notes Abby ...
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Cathy and Todd share a letter from a listener whose son discovers himself through dance, and how this discovery leads to self-aware parenting. It’s an inspirational and emotional story about how to create a connected relationship with your child – you don’t want to miss it. Steve is the father in this story has a part-time photography business which can be found here. Cathy and Todd also discuss Pixar’s Inside Out. See Soren dance below… ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Episode 4 of the series We Are Man Enough where they process the #metoo movement, consent, why it’s important to listen to other people’s stories, and how men can support other men. 34:21 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.  55:28 Team Zen We Are Man Enough Building a culture of consent and respect: A discussion with Mike Domitrz from the Date Safe Project Podcast #347 #Metoo. So What Now? ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Brady Bunch, Serena Williams Wimbledon interview, how to deal with conflict, empathy, and finding out who you can count on for honest, yet compassionate feedback. 2:14 Silver Platters perform 3:39 Serena Williams from Wilmbeldon 6:36 Todd’s blog is criticized as sexist and racist 8:06 Barack Obama’s take on unhealthy masculinity. 15:08 Dylan Marron’s Ted Talk clip 31:13 Team Zen 34:09 Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.  34:32 Quote from ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss one of Toby’s quotes from This is Us, and explain why his wisdom could strengthen any relationship. They discuss how to love our inner child without letting it take control, and why there are always only two options, love or fear. They share wisdom from Richard Rohr and Gary Zukov and some humor from Friends. 2:42 This Is Us Clip 9:00 Todd’s birth family examples 19:18 Going into child 27:02 Fear ...
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Todd and Cathy speak with Kara Valentine, co-Founder of Threads Worldwide, an organization that creates life-changing work for women around the world through the fair trade of artisan jewelry. Threads Worldwide was founded in 2011 to give back and weave together a community of women leaders and change-makers. Threads Worldwide JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY  2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss a productive definition of hope based on insight from Parker Palmer and Howard Thurman. They discuss Hannah Gadsby’s Netflix Comedy Special and share why her bravery and willingness to speak up is leading the way. 7:49 Parker Palmer- The Growing Edge 23:06 Hannah Gadsby discussion 59:05  Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.  Hannah Gadsby Netflix special JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY  2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK ...
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Todd and Cathy talk with Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder, partners and cofounders of The Relationship School. Jayson also hosts the Smart Couple Podcast, and Ellen is a therapist with a private practice. They discuss how couples grow and thrive, why men have a harder time focusing on personal growth, and why connection and self-understanding are the keys to an empowered life. 6:49 Jayson’s blog that resonated with Todd- Clip 1 13:16 Jayson’s blog that resonated ...
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Todd and Cathy talk with Patty Monahan, founder of Our Whole Village, a company that specializes in family vacations and adventures. They discuss why travel is so important at every age, why we should teach our children to be global citizens, and why travel creates confident parents and strong families. https://ourwholevillage.com/ JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY  2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events ...
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Cathy and Todd talk with Debbie Reber, author of Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. They discuss why this book is rally cry for all parents raising exceptional children, and why it benefits every parent to listen and understand differences. Debbie also shares 18 powerful “tilts” or paradigm shifts that can change how we see ourselves and our children. Differently Wired http://www.tiltparenting.com/ JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY  2019 ...
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Todd and Cathy talk with Josh St. Pierre, a 42 year old full-time soccer coach who is need of a kidney. Josh explains why live liver and kidney donation is essential and how to figure out if you are a match with someone on the registry. He also shares his story, starting with being diagnosed with kidney failure at 30, and why he is willing to ask for help and speak up for every person ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss a recent emotional labor issue and why it created an important discussion about invisible work. They also discuss the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, and discuss why allowing our darkness and discussing mental wellness is essential. They offer a recipe for fulfillment and share why we need to call women’s sports just “sports”. 2:50 Suicides of Kate Spade & Anthony Bourdain 4:04- Struggling with our own darkness 23:58  Team Zen- ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Abby Wambach’s graduation speech at Barnard and why it made such an impact. They share wisdom from Franciscan friar Richard Rohr about why it’s so easy to remember the negative, but so difficult to absorb the positive. 1:53 “Wild World” | Drew Holcomb and The Neighbors 10:35 Abby Wambach’s commencement message to women: ‘We are the wolves’ 18:44 Quote from Richard Rohr on the Rob Bell Podcast 38:17  Team Zen- Checkout Team Zen ...
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Cathy and Todd talk with Karen Brody, author of Daring to Rest: Reclaim Your Power with Yoga Nidra Rest Meditation. They discuss why women feel so much pressure to be productive, and why we need to redefine what rest really means. They discuss the power of yoga nidra, why it makes such a difference physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and why intention is an essential part of the process. Karen is also the creator/writer of Birth, ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Dr. Robin Berman’s book, Permission to Parent, and also her interview on the goop podcast. They discuss how our brain grows on love, why group-think starts in childhood, and why continuing to seek the approval of your parents can be detrimental to your present-day relationships. 2:07 Maintaining connection with your child while holding your space 4:12 Serena Williams seeding of the French Open 7:07  Team Zen- Checkout Team Zen for free!!! 9:55 Intro ...
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Cathy and Todd talk with International Best-Selling Author Charlie Donlea.  They talk about each of his three books including his latest and greatest “Don’t Believe It”  They also talk pop culture, Serial, The Making Of A Murderer, baseball, and Dungeons & Dragons.  Won’t want to miss this one!!!! Paining or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co.  Charlie Donlea Don’t Believe It The Tribe Men’s Group Todd Adams Coaching JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss intersectionality, a way of describing how multiple threats of discrimination exist when an individual’s identities overlap with several minority classes — such as race, gender, age, ethnicity, health and other characteristics. They discuss why we need to recognize our differences and listen to each other so we can begin to view experiences through a broader and more inclusive lense. They share how this can affect parenting and how it can shape our ...
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In this two-part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with Sara Knizhnik, Campaign Organizer at Illinois Council Against Handgun Violence, & Diane Lans-Kautz, Leader of the Moms Demand Action Chapter in Elmhurst. They discuss how Moms Demand Action started, how members are making a difference at the state and federal level, and why it’s a bipartisan group (that supports the 2nd amendment) that is not just for moms. They discuss legislation, other groups and individuals that ...
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In this two-part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with Sara Knizhnik, Campaign Organizer at Illinois Council Against Handgun Violence, & Diane Lans-Kautz, Leader of the Moms Demand Action Chapter in Elmhurst. They discuss how Moms Demand Action started, how members are making a difference at the state and federal level, and why it’s a bipartisan group (that supports the 2nd amendment) that is not just for moms. They discuss legislation, other groups and individuals that ...
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Todd and Cathy continue discussing Julie Lythcott-Haims’ book, How to Raise an Adult, specifically focusing on what our kids should know before they venture out on their own. They share a clip from Luvvie Ajayi’s TED Talk about the importance of speaking up, even when it’s uncomfortable, and why “keeping the peace” can keep us stuck in time. Todd shares a clip from a highly emotionally-intelligent father who understands how to reach his daughter, even ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss a practical checklist of what kids need before they go to college written by Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult. The checklist offers intention and clarity, and recognizes that skills develop over time in a child-developmentally appropriate way. They also discuss why Todd wanted to play Cashflow for his birthday, and why financial awareness is necessary education for our kids. 1:10 Cashflow Board Game experience 7:04 Famzoo shoutout ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the Super Soul Podcast conversation between Amy Schumer and Oprah about her new movie, I Feel Pretty. They talk about trusting your intention, why emotional labor is vital to the health of the family, and why accepting yourself leads to real confidence and a deeper connection with others. Free Month of Team Zen- All you have to do is enter the coupon code “May” to receive the discount. 2:44 Team Zen ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the emotional challenges of American men and why this impacts every part of our society. Their guests, Frank Naugo and Shaun Emerson, discuss why men struggle with intimacy, vulnerability, and friendship, and why anger or numbness can become a default setting. They share clips from the Hidden Brain podcast titled How American Masculinity Creates Lonely Men, and discuss how we can redefine what it means to be a man. 33:41 To ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss “moral outrage” and how to use it to create positive change. They explain how society tends to value a clean and concise way of thinking, but how thinking out of the box or seeing the bigger picture can lead to greater compassion and connection. They discuss how to support a child who doesn’t want to share, why spaghetti thinking is as important as waffle thinking, and why wide open spaces are ...
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Todd and Cathy welcome their friends John and Julie Duffy, hosts of the Better Podcast (formerly titled Undue Anxiety). They talk about Tony Robbins, the #MeToo movement, and why listening and respecting others is essential for real change. They discuss couplehood, family dynamics, and how we can live in joy but always leave room for the dark. 1:12 Introduction of the “Better” podcast 4:58 Discussion of Tony Robbins video 19:13 #Men’s take on #Metoo 20:49 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how to recognize when we are showing up authentically rather than performing. They also discuss how to deal with a child who seems consistently disappointed, and why taking responsibility for our own behavior is key. Todd shares a clip about investing from Freakonomics, Cathy discusses the joy of Funko characters, and they offer some wisdom from Tommy Boy. :58 Cathy finds a new way of explaining something old 3:35 Tommy Boy ...
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Todd & Cathy Discuss the 4 different types of fears as described by Iyanla Vanzandt, Dierk’s Bentley, Bruce Willis’ wine cooler commercial, Eddie Murphy’s single “Party All The Time”, and how we’ve all already done the hardest thing we will ever do. 1:00 Movie quotes quiz & other random stuff 4:40 Dierks Bentley tribute 9:04 Four primal fears by Iyanla Van Sandt 10:20 Fear of losing someone’s love or fear of being rejected 20:55 Fear ...
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Todd shares a story of a softball coach who proclaims “boys are stronger than girls” and what happened after that statement was made. They also discuss why focusing on too many things makes us feel overwhelmed and paralyzed, and why choosing one thing helps us take action and create real change (they share examples from MOMS Demand Action and from A Wrinkle in Time). They share how they created their women’s circle/men’s group, why we should ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the question that they hear the most – “How can I get my partner to….” – they discuss why this question is multi-layered, messy, and not easily answered. They discuss why wanting to change others feels easier than changing ourselves, why true wisdom comes from quiet, and the life-changing advice Oprah has for all people. 2:52 Missing the window of time to do household stuff 9:48 How Do I Get My ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Cheryl Strayed, MILCK, Mike Domitrz and all the goodness from the 2018 Zen Parenting Conference. They discuss the most frequently asked question ZPR question, the Oscars, and how we can all become forces for good. 3:42 Moms Demand Action Inaugural Meeting on March 21st 7:00 PM @ Bethel Church 315 E. St. Charles in Elmhurst, IL 4:34 Kind Snacks Partnership– To pick up your free sample box go to http://kindsnacks.com/zen 5:21 Cheryl ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss The Gentle Warrior’s Manifesto to Reduce Busyness from Courtney Carver’s book, Soulful Simplicity, and they discuss a Freakonomic’s podcast titled After the Glass Ceiling, A Glass Cliff, about why only 5% of Fortune 500 companies are run by women. They share why men and women eat Doritos differently, why we need to linger longer, and why Cathy loves Lionel Richie. 2:52 Discussion of After the Glass Ceiling, a Glass Cliff 5:20 ...
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