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When Harry Met Sally… is a 1989 American romantic comedy film written by Nora Ephron and directed by Rob Reiner. It stars Billy Crystal as Harry and Meg Ryan as Sally. The story follows the title characters from the time they meet in Chicago just before sharing a cross-country drive, through twelve years of chance encounters in New York City. The film raises the question “Can men and women ever just be friends?” and advances many ideas about relationships that became household concepts, such as “high-maintenance” and the ...
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Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving 1 on 1 support for guys Todd Adams Coaching Subscribe to Pop Culturing Cathy and Todd kick-off boundaries month by discussing internal boundaries and the clinical understanding of family enmeshment. They discuss how we take on other people’s emotions, why it’s hard for us to be happy if the ones we love aren’t ...
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Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving 1 on 1 support for guys Todd Adams Coaching We talk with our daughter Jacey who identifies as gay, her friend Grace who identifies as bi-sexual, and her friend Edgar who identifies as gay. They share their coming out stories, family reactions, and experiences that have been helpful and harmful. They discuss how ...
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The Silence of the Lambs is a 1991 American psychological horror film directed by Jonathan Demme and written by Ted Tally, adapted from Thomas Harris‘ 1988 novel. It stars Jodie Foster as Clarice Starling, a young FBI trainee who is hunting a serial killer, “Buffalo Bill” (Ted Levine), who skins his female victims. To catch him, she seeks the advice of the imprisoned Dr. Hannibal Lecter (Anthony Hopkins), a brilliant psychiatrist and cannibalistic serial killer. Scott Glenn and Anthony Heald also feature. The film was the second adaptation of a Harris novel, after Manhunter (1986). Trailer: https://youtu.be/W6Mm8Sbe__o ...
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Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving 1 on 1 support for guys Todd Adams Coaching Todd and Cathy discuss Creativity and Balance, Part 3 of Empathy Volume Month. They discuss ideas and tools to take care of ourselves during uncertain times, and how to bring balance to our self-care and relationships. 3:03 Tournament of bad 5:45 Zen Parenting Moment ...
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Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving 1 on 1 support for guys Todd Adams Coaching Todd and Cathy continue their discussion about empathy volume and focus on how to turn down empathy to avoid burnout. They discuss the 3 types of empathy and how we can remain empathetic without exhausting ourselves. They also discuss Adam Grant’s new book Think ...
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Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving 1 on 1 support for guys Todd Adams Coaching Todd+Cathy discuss mindful caring as a kick off to their “Empathy Volume” month (how to turn it up and stay connected, how to turn it down to avoid burnout). They share three ways to make empathy a priority, and how having clear intention about ...
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The Breakfast Club is a 1985 American teen coming-of-age comedy-drama film written, produced, and directed by John Hughes. It stars Emilio Estevez, Anthony Michael Hall, Judd Nelson, Molly Ringwald and Ally Sheedy as teenagers from different high school cliques who spend a Saturday in detention with their authoritarian assistant principal (Paul Gleason). Trailer: https://youtu.be/BSXBvor47Zs ...
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Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving Cathy and Todd discuss the “messages and arrows” of our emotions, specifically that they give us the information we need to understand ourselves and teach our kids. Every feeling has an underlying reason, and the more we understand our emotional messages the easier we will see the arrows that point to what matters ...
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Subscribe to Cathy’s 2X/week Zen Parenting Moment Join Team Zen– First Month is free with coupon code “friend” Learn more about MenLiving Cathy and Todd discuss how accountability leads to unity, and how impunity or justifying something deeply harmful leads to more divisiveness, not healing. They discuss how this is true with our government and the insurrection, and also when we have challenges in our partnerships, parenting, and friendships. Forgiveness is what we do for ...
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Todd and Cathy continue their discussion about how and why we grow and share specific colors that represent our stages of development (often referred to as spiral dynamics). They discuss how this effects politics, values, “fake news”, sports, leadership, and our need to belong. 7:57 Colors 62:10Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Rob Bell Podcast Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the question that they hear the most – “How can I get my partner to….” – they discuss why this question is multi-layered, messy, and not easily answered. They discuss why wanting to change others feels easier than changing ourselves, why true wisdom comes from quiet, and the life-changing advice Oprah has for all people. 2:49 How do I get my partner to… 25:21 Clip of the little girl… 62:10Avid Co.– Painting ...
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Cathy and Todd focus on Me, We, and Everybody, a teaching of moral development (or Spiral Dynamics) taken from The Robcast. They share why this personal growth model (similar to understanding the chakras or the Enneagram) helps us see ourselves, relate to others, and understand how we all evolve (and regress) in different ways. Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living 1:05:43 Avid Co.– Painting & ...
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Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer is a 1964 Christmas stop motion animated television special produced by Videocraft International, Ltd. (later known as Rankin/Bass Productions) and currently distributed by Universal Television. It first aired Sunday, December 6, 1964, on the NBC television network in the United States and was sponsored by General Electric under the umbrella title of The General Electric Fantasy Hour. The special was based on the Johnny Marks song “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer” which was itself based on the poem of the same name written in 1939 by Marks’ brother-in-law, Robert L. May. Since 1972, the ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss 1964’s Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer and why the adults dropped the ball in helping Hermy and Rudolph understand their specialness – BUT, it’s still a great holiday rewatch filled with joy, learning, and nostalgia. Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Men Living 1:01:32 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Men Living Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free ...
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Cathy and Todd reference a recent post by Dr. Alexandra Solomon about how we are doing a better job raising our girls to be leaders than raising our sons to be caregivers. They discuss how to raise whole sons who respect every aspect of their humanity, and how failing to do this hurts our boys and society. They also discuss the opinion writer who wants Dr. Jill Biden to drop “Dr.”, what Shawn Mendes can ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the difference between a “bottler” or “brooder” when it comes to negative feelings, and why being curious about feelings allows us to be less reactive and more compassionate. They discuss why darkness is not always bad, and why there is wisdom inside all of our emotions. 1:58 Charlie Rogers 24 hour walk donation form 7:11 Quiz 1:03:03 Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Susan David’s book and TED Talk about emotional agility and why the ability to be agile leads to healthy human beings. They discuss why we need the skills to deal with the world as it is, and why sharing our emotions allows us to pay attention to our values and notice what’s working in our lives and families. 8:34 Big Life Journal– Enter coupon code ZENPARENT for 10% off your order ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the double bind of “do no harm”, in that all decisions, even educated and well-thought out choices, may impact some negatively. They discuss the positive impact of empathy and the danger of gaslighting, and share Anne Lamott’s theories around hatred and self-understanding. 27:40 Big Life Journal– Enter coupon code ZENPARENT for 10% off your order. 1:07:20 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling Men Living Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon ...
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Cathy interviews Todd, Frank Naugo, & Shaun Emerson discussing the relaunch from the Tribe Men’s Group over to Men Living.  They discuss the resources available that will help men step up to make a more harmonious world. 27:40 Big Life Journal– Enter coupon code ZENPARENT for 10% off your order. 1:00:50 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling The Profound Loneliness of American Men- Podcast #429 Men Living Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how the election has provided a more sturdy foundation to rebuild trust, beauty, and a sense of self and community. They discuss how we can continue to do small acts of kindness, continue our activism, and remember to “sing while filled with our dreams and troubles”. 53:15 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling  Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss getting through difficult and vulnerable moments (like election day) and how self-compassion and mindfulness are key. They discuss coping mechanisms versus escapism, how to effectively breathe, and why we should check-in on our strong friends. 56:45 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling  Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “friend” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs?  Check ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and how Ezra Klein’s article in Vox used Maslow’s work to explain the importance of next week’s election. They discuss the importance of the election, what’s at stake, and why we need to remember our dignity, humanity, and interconnectedness as we move through this week and into 2021. 49:31 Avid Co.– Painting & Remodeling  Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book Burnout, and how we can better process and release the stress we experience. They discuss their interview on the Unlocking Us podcast with Brene Brown, and the seven things we can do to make a difference in our overall well-being. They also discuss why women experience stress differently than men, and why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are tools for healthier living. 1:11:35 ...
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Cathy+Todd discuss Cathy’s recent Zen Parenting Moment about how to guide our children with humility, and why spiritual narcissism can lead us to believe we have all of the answers. They discuss the HBO documentary The Vow and why in all situations we need to stay connected to our own inner knowing. 26:38 Care.com – As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family care, Care.com helps millions of families find high quality ...
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Relationship expert Dr. Alexandra Solomon join Cathy and Todd to discuss why dominance isn’t strength when it comes to politics, partnership, and parenting, and why last week’s debate was so difficult to watch. They discuss the necessary breakthroughs for a successful marriage, and what it means to hold space for someone we love. Zen Parenting Moments Email Subscription Link Dr. Alexandra Solomon Loving Bravely: A discussion with Dr. Alexandra Solomon- Podcast #372  Tribe Men’s Group ...
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Cathy and Todd talk with Rosalind Wiseman (Founder of Cultures of Dignity and author of Queen Bees and Wannabees) about her new book The Distance Learning Playbook for Parents and her “Tiny Guides” to help you quickly comprehend core social and emotional concepts. Cultures of Dignity The Distance Learning Playbook for Parents- Enter Coupon code “DLPP25” for 25% off Social Dilemma Trailer  Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss losing RBG and why we have to practice what she taught us rather than decide all is lost. They discuss how we can grieve and also be strong, be afraid but also find joy. They discuss the importance of mindfulness and share Author Michael Singer’s description of a strong heart. 0:48 What Dads Miss Workshop with John Duffy & Todd Adams Wednesday, September 23rd @ 7:00 PM 1:10 Try Team Zen– try ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss NFL player Dak Prescott’s willingness to discuss depression and why there was backlash. They process the yin and yang of emotions and why challenge makes us stronger, not weaker. They also discuss whether vulnerable pictures of our kids should be posted on social networking, and how the Japanese art of Kintsugi is a visual representation of falling apart and piecing ourselves back together more beautifully. 1:39 https://conference.happilyfamily.com The Happily Family Conference ...
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Jacey, Camryn, and Skylar join Cathy and Todd to discuss the 2020 school year. They discuss the pros and cons of remote and hybrid learning, and why our educational goals from 2019 should not be our focus in 2020. They girls discuss what they’ve learned about themselves and education since the lockdown. 7:52 How are things different? 10:00 Do you want to go back to school? 17:50 Advice for students 23:20 Advice for teachers 29:08 ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to find personal alignment rather than what our society calls “success”. They reference the 4 Noble Truths, Mel Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, the 8-fold path, To Kill a Mockingbird, the power of intuition, and how scientists estimate the probability of your being born at about one in 400 trillion. They also discuss the shocking death of Chadwick Boseman, and Cathy’s new book deal. Zen Parenting, the book, will be coming out ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how to see this school year differently and how to accept and reframe our experiences. They discuss how figuring out something new will take time and patience (and self-care), and how children will learn a lot about self-regulation and how to go with the flow in a new system of learning. 6:22 Reframing and accepting 9:05 Blame 12:45 Accepting grief 25:00 Jazz and accepting change 30:00 Reframing school 39:00 Reframing kids ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation for kids, and discuss the harm of unachievable success in the documentary The Weight of Gold (about Olympic athletes) and The Go Go’s documentary (about the rise and fall of the band). They also discuss the true and false self, and the “Three Lords of Materialism” (coined by Chögyam Trungpa in his book Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism) and how they relate to our perception of success and motivation. 3:04 Back ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss why understanding ambiguous loss, the dignity of others, and the humanity of teachers is essential as we navigate a back to school plan. This uncertain time necessitates reflective and respectful discourse, and a reminder that our kids are looking to us as role models in how to respond to a difficult and unprecedented event. 5:50 Ambiguous loss 23:44 Care.com – As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and everything else) differently and shift how we relate to our children when it comes to technology. #2 of a two-part series. 5:15 Summary 10:51 Right livelihood 23:45 Right effort 43:14 Right mindfulness 54:05  Right concentration 67:00 Avid Painting & Remodeling  Tribe Men’s Group ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and everything else) differently and shift how we relate to our children when it comes to technology. #1 of a two-part series. 3:14 8- Fold path 11:54 Right view 22:41 Right motivation 36:33 Right speech 53:45 Right action 1:11:20 Avid Painting & Remodeling  Tribe ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss John Oliver’s Last Week Tonight episode about conspiracy theories, and share the psychology behind why people believe tend to believe them. We also discuss how to have productive conversations with people who share and promote harmful pandemic theories. 4:50 Conspiracy Theories 13:12 So I Married An Axe Murderer 19:40 The reason why people believe in conspiracy theories 25:19 Cathy’s favorite quote – “this glass is fragile…” 41:44 Forrest Gump 51:03 What ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss why building a strong foundation can get us through difficultly and uncertainty, and help us recognize what’s most important in crisis and calmer times. They share what a “strong foundation” looks like and why it’s an everyday practice. They discuss Eckhart Tolle, Richard Rohr, and why dark helps us understand the light (and vice versa). 3:40 Scripture (Matthew) 24:26 Cathy’s foundation 32:50 Row Row Row Your Boat 36:26 We forgot about ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss why connection necessitates letting go of needing and focusing more on understanding. They share a story of connecting with their daughter and why knowing her well was the key to engagement. 52:52 Avid Painting & Remodeling  Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. CLICK HERE ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the Zen parable about the monkey in the river and why it teaches us to find the aliveness of every moment, even if we are afraid or uncertain. They offer examples and analogies from The Karate Kid, Parenthood, Dead Poets Society and even High School Musical. They also discuss the importance of staying educated and continuing to integrate discussions about race into our parenting, and why we need to WEAR MASKS ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how self-care is about building a life that you don’t need to escape from – by speaking up, asking for what you need, resting, and interacting with integrity. They discuss how we can practice this in partnership and parenting, and when we are discussing and learning about difficult issues like race. They also discuss what makes a great song and share some of their picks. 9:00 What self-care really is 18:04 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how self-awareness, vulnerability, and a willingness to listen upfront lead to authentic and connected conversations later. They discuss how this applies to race discussions, partnership, and parenting, and how cognitive dissonance and whataboutism get in the way of meaningful and productive communication. They reference So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo, Brene Brown’s podcast with the Duplass brothers, and White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo. 4:22 Truth is hard ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how spiritual bypassing (the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings) can run counter to being a listener and learner when it comes to race. They discuss how spiritual bypassing has become normalized and separates us from the issues we need to work through when it comes to social justice, partnerships, parenting, or our own growth and development. 35:16 Care.com– As the world’s largest online ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the protests and why self-awareness and being a student are essential when talking about race. They share who they learn from, why we need to speak up, and why dismantling racism in ourselves is necessary, difficult, and uncomfortable. Leaders to follow: @austinchanning @luvvie @blackcoffeewithwhitefriends @mspackyetti @myblockmyhoodmycity @jlythcotthaims @laylafsaad @thegreatunlearn @rachel.cargle @maskchicago Books mentioned: White Fragility Between the World and Me and The Water Dancer How to be an Antiracist Just Mercy ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss some of the questions from this New York Times article titled The 36 Questions That Lead to Love 41:05 Avid Painting & Remodeling 41:28 David Serrano Personal Financial Planner- Call him @ 815-370-3780 and say Todd & Cathy sent you. The 36 Questions That Lead to Love  Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the highlights of a Freakonomics podcast titled Reasons to Be Cheerful as well as The Goop Podcast titled The Culture of Busyness.  Some of the topics discussed were the negativity bias, loss aversion, and getting out of the way so our kids can become the people they are supposed to be. 7:53 – The news 27:32 Parenting 39:45 The role of essential workers 43:30 Which parts of Covid are going to ...
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Teen film is a film genre targeted at teenagers and young adults by the plot being based on their special interests, such as coming of age, attempting to fit in, bullying, peer pressure, first love, teen rebellion, conflict with parents, and teen angst or alienation.[1] Often these normally serious subject matters are presented in a glossy, stereotyped or trivialized way. Many teenage characters are portrayed by young adult actors. Some teen films appeal to young males, while others appeal to young females. Trailer: https://youtu.be/4lj185DaZ_o ...
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Todd and Cathy interview Jim Dethmer from the Conscious Leadership Group.  They discuss the difference between the content (what is happening) of our lives and the context (from what energy are we dealing with what is happening.  They also talk about the universe, death, toddlers, weed, and body intelligence in this real world example when Cathy and Todd’s 12 year old daughter interrupts the interview. To register for the free webinar this Thursday, May 14th ...
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William Bradley “Brad” Pitt (born December 18, 1963) is an American actor and film producer. He has received multiple awards, including two Golden Globe Awards and an Academy Award for his acting, in addition to another Academy Award and a Primetime Emmy Award as producer under his production company, Plan B Entertainment. Trailer: https://youtu.be/R5Y1mHxfnA8 ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to experience messy and how messy, but necessary, conversations can cause discomfort and uncertainty. They discuss why others are not always bad or wrong, and how we can see the nuance and grey in every situation. They discuss how enlightening or self-aware moments can look different for everybody, and how a Good Will Hunting moment isn’t the only example of catharsis. 3:06 What’s messy look like? 6:37 Good ...
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