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Cathy and Todd discuss Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book Burnout, and how we can better process and release the stress we experience. They discuss their interview on the Unlocking Us podcast with Brene Brown, and the seven things we can do to make a difference in our overall well-being. They also discuss why women experience stress differently than men, and why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are tools for healthier living. 1:11:35 ...
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Cathy+Todd discuss Cathy’s recent Zen Parenting Moment about how to guide our children with humility, and why spiritual narcissism can lead us to believe we have all of the answers. They discuss the HBO documentary The Vow and why in all situations we need to stay connected to our own inner knowing. 26:38 Care.com – As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family care, Care.com helps millions of families find high quality ...
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Relationship expert Dr. Alexandra Solomon join Cathy and Todd to discuss why dominance isn’t strength when it comes to politics, partnership, and parenting, and why last week’s debate was so difficult to watch. They discuss the necessary breakthroughs for a successful marriage, and what it means to hold space for someone we love. Zen Parenting Moments Email Subscription Link Dr. Alexandra Solomon Loving Bravely: A discussion with Dr. Alexandra Solomon- Podcast #372  Tribe Men’s Group ...
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Cathy and Todd talk with Rosalind Wiseman (Founder of Cultures of Dignity and author of Queen Bees and Wannabees) about her new book The Distance Learning Playbook for Parents and her “Tiny Guides” to help you quickly comprehend core social and emotional concepts. Cultures of Dignity The Distance Learning Playbook for Parents- Enter Coupon code “DLPP25” for 25% off Social Dilemma Trailer  Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss losing RBG and why we have to practice what she taught us rather than decide all is lost. They discuss how we can grieve and also be strong, be afraid but also find joy. They discuss the importance of mindfulness and share Author Michael Singer’s description of a strong heart. 0:48 What Dads Miss Workshop with John Duffy & Todd Adams Wednesday, September 23rd @ 7:00 PM 1:10 Try Team Zen– try ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss NFL player Dak Prescott’s willingness to discuss depression and why there was backlash. They process the yin and yang of emotions and why challenge makes us stronger, not weaker. They also discuss whether vulnerable pictures of our kids should be posted on social networking, and how the Japanese art of Kintsugi is a visual representation of falling apart and piecing ourselves back together more beautifully. 1:39 https://conference.happilyfamily.com The Happily Family Conference ...
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Jacey, Camryn, and Skylar join Cathy and Todd to discuss the 2020 school year. They discuss the pros and cons of remote and hybrid learning, and why our educational goals from 2019 should not be our focus in 2020. They girls discuss what they’ve learned about themselves and education since the lockdown. 7:52 How are things different? 10:00 Do you want to go back to school? 17:50 Advice for students 23:20 Advice for teachers 29:08 ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to find personal alignment rather than what our society calls “success”. They reference the 4 Noble Truths, Mel Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, the 8-fold path, To Kill a Mockingbird, the power of intuition, and how scientists estimate the probability of your being born at about one in 400 trillion. They also discuss the shocking death of Chadwick Boseman, and Cathy’s new book deal. Zen Parenting, the book, will be coming out ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how to see this school year differently and how to accept and reframe our experiences. They discuss how figuring out something new will take time and patience (and self-care), and how children will learn a lot about self-regulation and how to go with the flow in a new system of learning. 6:22 Reframing and accepting 9:05 Blame 12:45 Accepting grief 25:00 Jazz and accepting change 30:00 Reframing school 39:00 Reframing kids ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation for kids, and discuss the harm of unachievable success in the documentary The Weight of Gold (about Olympic athletes) and The Go Go’s documentary (about the rise and fall of the band). They also discuss the true and false self, and the “Three Lords of Materialism” (coined by Chögyam Trungpa in his book Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism) and how they relate to our perception of success and motivation. 3:04 Back ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss why understanding ambiguous loss, the dignity of others, and the humanity of teachers is essential as we navigate a back to school plan. This uncertain time necessitates reflective and respectful discourse, and a reminder that our kids are looking to us as role models in how to respond to a difficult and unprecedented event. 5:50 Ambiguous loss 23:44 Care.com – As the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and everything else) differently and shift how we relate to our children when it comes to technology. #2 of a two-part series. 5:15 Summary 10:51 Right livelihood 23:45 Right effort 43:14 Right mindfulness 54:05  Right concentration 67:00 Avid Painting & Remodeling  Tribe Men’s Group ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and everything else) differently and shift how we relate to our children when it comes to technology. #1 of a two-part series. 3:14 8- Fold path 11:54 Right view 22:41 Right motivation 36:33 Right speech 53:45 Right action 1:11:20 Avid Painting & Remodeling  Tribe ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss John Oliver’s Last Week Tonight episode about conspiracy theories, and share the psychology behind why people believe tend to believe them. We also discuss how to have productive conversations with people who share and promote harmful pandemic theories. 4:50 Conspiracy Theories 13:12 So I Married An Axe Murderer 19:40 The reason why people believe in conspiracy theories 25:19 Cathy’s favorite quote – “this glass is fragile…” 41:44 Forrest Gump 51:03 What ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss why building a strong foundation can get us through difficultly and uncertainty, and help us recognize what’s most important in crisis and calmer times. They share what a “strong foundation” looks like and why it’s an everyday practice. They discuss Eckhart Tolle, Richard Rohr, and why dark helps us understand the light (and vice versa). 3:40 Scripture (Matthew) 24:26 Cathy’s foundation 32:50 Row Row Row Your Boat 36:26 We forgot about ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss why connection necessitates letting go of needing and focusing more on understanding. They share a story of connecting with their daughter and why knowing her well was the key to engagement. 52:52 Avid Painting & Remodeling  Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. CLICK HERE ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss the Zen parable about the monkey in the river and why it teaches us to find the aliveness of every moment, even if we are afraid or uncertain. They offer examples and analogies from The Karate Kid, Parenthood, Dead Poets Society and even High School Musical. They also discuss the importance of staying educated and continuing to integrate discussions about race into our parenting, and why we need to WEAR MASKS ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how self-care is about building a life that you don’t need to escape from – by speaking up, asking for what you need, resting, and interacting with integrity. They discuss how we can practice this in partnership and parenting, and when we are discussing and learning about difficult issues like race. They also discuss what makes a great song and share some of their picks. 9:00 What self-care really is 18:04 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how self-awareness, vulnerability, and a willingness to listen upfront lead to authentic and connected conversations later. They discuss how this applies to race discussions, partnership, and parenting, and how cognitive dissonance and whataboutism get in the way of meaningful and productive communication. They reference So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo, Brene Brown’s podcast with the Duplass brothers, and White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo. 4:22 Truth is hard ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how spiritual bypassing (the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings) can run counter to being a listener and learner when it comes to race. They discuss how spiritual bypassing has become normalized and separates us from the issues we need to work through when it comes to social justice, partnerships, parenting, or our own growth and development. 35:16 Care.com– As the world’s largest online ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the protests and why self-awareness and being a student are essential when talking about race. They share who they learn from, why we need to speak up, and why dismantling racism in ourselves is necessary, difficult, and uncomfortable. Leaders to follow: @austinchanning @luvvie @blackcoffeewithwhitefriends @mspackyetti @myblockmyhoodmycity @jlythcotthaims @laylafsaad @thegreatunlearn @rachel.cargle @maskchicago Books mentioned: White Fragility Between the World and Me and The Water Dancer How to be an Antiracist Just Mercy ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss some of the questions from this New York Times article titled The 36 Questions That Lead to Love 41:05 Avid Painting & Remodeling 41:28 David Serrano Personal Financial Planner- Call him @ 815-370-3780 and say Todd & Cathy sent you. The 36 Questions That Lead to Love  Tribe Men’s Group Events Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the highlights of a Freakonomics podcast titled Reasons to Be Cheerful as well as The Goop Podcast titled The Culture of Busyness.  Some of the topics discussed were the negativity bias, loss aversion, and getting out of the way so our kids can become the people they are supposed to be. 7:53 – The news 27:32 Parenting 39:45 The role of essential workers 43:30 Which parts of Covid are going to ...
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Teen film is a film genre targeted at teenagers and young adults by the plot being based on their special interests, such as coming of age, attempting to fit in, bullying, peer pressure, first love, teen rebellion, conflict with parents, and teen angst or alienation.[1] Often these normally serious subject matters are presented in a glossy, stereotyped or trivialized way. Many teenage characters are portrayed by young adult actors. Some teen films appeal to young males, while others appeal to young females. Trailer: https://youtu.be/4lj185DaZ_o ...
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Todd and Cathy interview Jim Dethmer from the Conscious Leadership Group.  They discuss the difference between the content (what is happening) of our lives and the context (from what energy are we dealing with what is happening.  They also talk about the universe, death, toddlers, weed, and body intelligence in this real world example when Cathy and Todd’s 12 year old daughter interrupts the interview. To register for the free webinar this Thursday, May 14th ...
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William Bradley “Brad” Pitt (born December 18, 1963) is an American actor and film producer. He has received multiple awards, including two Golden Globe Awards and an Academy Award for his acting, in addition to another Academy Award and a Primetime Emmy Award as producer under his production company, Plan B Entertainment. Trailer: https://youtu.be/R5Y1mHxfnA8 ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to experience messy and how messy, but necessary, conversations can cause discomfort and uncertainty. They discuss why others are not always bad or wrong, and how we can see the nuance and grey in every situation. They discuss how enlightening or self-aware moments can look different for everybody, and how a Good Will Hunting moment isn’t the only example of catharsis. 3:06 What’s messy look like? 6:37 Good ...
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Little Fires Everywhere is an American drama web television miniseries, based on the 2017 novel of the same name by Celeste Ng. It premiered on Hulu on March 18, 2020 and consists of eight episodes.[1] The series stars Reese Witherspoon and Kerry Washington, both of whom also executive produced, alongside Liz Tigelaar, Lauren Neustadter, and Pilar Savone. Set in Shaker Heights, Ohio during the late 1990s, it features Witherspoon and Washington as mothers from different socioeconomic backgrounds. Trailer: https://youtu.be/JWGkX8ClhBI ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss why hitting a wall is to be expected, and why it’s not a failure, it’s a recalibration. They discuss what walls can teach us and why adaptation and pivoting are important now, and after, the pandemic. They discuss why all feelings are acceptable, and why if we can be specific about what we are feeling, we will have an easier time moving through it. 4:20 E-learning- Highlights from Dr. John Duffy’s ...
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Cathy+Todd discuss Walt Whitman’s poem This is what you shall do and discuss how his wisdom is relevant today. The discuss what it means to “dismiss whatever insults your soul”, and why this relates to us globally and in our own families. They also share lessons from The Little Rascals and Dead Poets Society. Poem by Whitman “This is what you shall do; Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms ...
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Lost is an American drama television series that originally aired on ABC from September 22, 2004, to May 23, 2010, over six seasons, comprising a total of 121 episodes. The show contains elements of supernatural and science fiction, and follows the survivors of a commercial jet airliner flying between Sydney and Los Angeles, after the plane crashes on a mysterious island somewhere in the South Pacific Ocean. The story is told in a heavily serialized manner. Episodes typically feature a primary storyline set on the island, augmented by flashback or flashforward sequences which provide additional insight ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss how we judge our own feelings and then instead of self-regulating, we get lost in a cycle of emotions. They discuss Mark Brackett’s book Permission to Feel, and his interview on Brenè Brown’s Unlocking Us podcast. They also share some ways we can monitor our emotions and show up for our kids, partners, and world in a more compassionate way. 56:30 Avid Painting & Remodeling Brene Brown Podcast Tribe Men’s Group ...
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Lost is an American drama television series that originally aired on ABC from September 22, 2004, to May 23, 2010, over six seasons, comprising a total of 121 episodes. The show contains elements of supernatural and science fiction, and follows the survivors of a commercial jet airliner flying between Sydney and Los Angeles, after the plane crashes on a mysterious island somewhere in the South Pacific Ocean. The story is told in a heavily serialized manner. Episodes typically feature a primary storyline set on the island, augmented by flashback or flashforward sequences which provide additional insight ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss vivid dreaming and why you might be feeling old griefs during this pandemic. They discuss why talking about your feelings and appreciating humor and joy are stabilizing. They share why Lin Manuel Miranda, John Krasinski, the Cuomo Brothers and Matthew McConaughey have been helpful over the last couple of days. 2:24 Taking it to 11 3:58 Dreams 14:35 Cathy cries 17:40 Book of Awakening Lesson- Give it a voice 22:40 Some ...
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Knives Out is a 2019 American mystery film written and directed by Rian Johnson, and produced by Johnson and Ram Bergman. A modern whodunit, the film follows a family gathering gone awry, after the patriarch’s death leads a master detective to investigate. The film features an ensemble cast, including Daniel Craig, Chris Evans, Ana de Armas, Jamie Lee Curtis, Michael Shannon, Don Johnson, Toni Collette, Lakeith Stanfield, Katherine Langford, Jaeden Martell, and Christopher Plummer. Trailer: https://youtu.be/xi-1NchUqMA ...
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Tiger King: Murder, Mayhem and Madness is a 2020 true crime documentary television series about the life of Joseph Allen Maldonado-Passage, popularly known as Joe Exotic.[1] It was released on Netflix on March 20, 2020.[2] The series focuses on the small but deeply interconnected society of big cat conservationists like Carole Baskin, owner of Big Cat Rescue, and collectors such as Exotic, who Baskin accuses of abusing and exploiting wild animals. Trailer: https://youtu.be/acTdxsoa428 ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss creating new habits during the pandemic – for some this can add structure, and for others this can feel too overwhelming. They share the difference between people who are enjoying this time of shelter-in-place, and those who are working harder and taking risks so we all can feel safe and cared for. They also discuss the show Alone and why we need to take care of those who are by themselves, ...
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Cathy and Todd discuss an article in the Harvard Law Review titled The Discomfort You Are Feeling is Grief. Grief expert David Kessler explains how we are all feeling anticipatory grief during this pandemic and how to find hope and meaning in our daily experiences. They also discuss how to pull inspiration from Caroline Ingalls (Little House on the Prairie) and the movie Castaway. 5:40 That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief 18:48 4 attributes of ...
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Marvel’s The Avengers[6] (classified under the name Marvel Avengers Assemble in the United Kingdom and Ireland),[3][7] or simply The Avengers, is a 2012 American superhero film based on the Marvel Comics superhero team of the same name, produced by Marvel Studios and distributed by Walt Disney Studios Motion Pictures.[N 1] It is the sixth film in the Marvel Cinematic Universe (MCU). The film was written and directed by Joss Whedon and features an ensemble cast that includes Robert Downey Jr., Chris Evans, Mark Ruffalo, Chris Hemsworth, Scarlett Johansson, and Jeremy Renner as the titular Avengers team, alongside Tom Hiddleston, Clark Gregg, Cobie Smulders, Stellan Skarsgård, and Samuel L. Jackson ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss a few ways to cope with uncertainty and why self-care and emotional well-being is the most important thing right now. 0:00 Tonglen breathing 18:30 Loosen the grip on structure and screen time Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Friend” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. CLICK HERE for a list of all ...
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Artie (Billy Crystal) and Diane (Bette Midler) agree to look after their three grandkids when their type-A helicopter parents need to leave town for work. Problems arise when the kids’ 21st-century behavior collides with Artie and Diane’s old-school methods. Parental Guidance is a 2012 American family comedy film starring Billy Crystal, Bette Midler, Marisa Tomei, and Tom Everett Scott and directed by Andy Fickman.[3] It was released on December 25, 2012.[4][5] It was the final 20th Century Fox film to be financed by Dune Entertainment as part of a deal with ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk to kids about the uncertainty of these times, and why it’s important to focus on the whole rather than the individual. They discuss why it’s ok to let kids sleep and loosen up on your typical structure, and ways to help other people in need. Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss the impact of the corona virus, emotional labor, & Kramer’s attitude towards the gas gauge. 1:20 Corona virus update 18:13 Looking for an honest and smart financial advisor?  Look no further than David Serrano.  You can reach him @ 815-370-3780 19:09 Emotional labor 37:38 Taxation upon feminine products 47:44 Avid Painting & Remodeling Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss how negative news cycles and uncertainty can leave us feeling tired and overwhelmed. They discuss how to take care of ourselves (it’s a practice!), and how to talk to our kids about their feelings and coping tools. 4:34 It’s OK to be tired 8:50  It’s not about the coronavirus 15:15 Busy 31:13 I’m tired 42:19 The two monks story Gratitude: The Short Film by Louie Schwartzberg 59:59 Avid Painting & Remodeling ...
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Cathy & Todd discuss the highlights and takeaways to the 5th annual Zen Parenting Conference. 3:40 Pre-conference workshops 13:28 Talking to your kids about sex 25:22 Dr. John Duffy 31:39 Rachel Simmons 40:31 Gemma Hartley 42:31 Debbie Reber 44:50 Transgender & non-binary stories 52:10 Tony Porter 59:59 Avid Painting & Remodeling John Duffy: Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety http://MaureenMuldoon.com Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 ...
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Cathy and Todd talk about this classic from 2000 about a teenage journalist writing for Rolling Stone in the early 1970s, his touring with the fictitious rock band Stillwater, and his efforts to get his first cover story published. Almost Famous is a 2000 American comedy-drama film written and directed by Cameron Crowe and starring Billy Crudup, Frances McDormand, Kate Hudson, and Patrick Fugit. It tells the story of a teenage journalist writing for Rolling Stone in the early 1970s, his touring with the fictitious rock band Stillwater, ...
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4:00 Tuesday morning inspiration 12:05 Compassionate partnership 48:22 Avid Painting & Remodeling 2020 Zen Parenting Conference Team Zen- 0 Pressure, 100% support Enter coupon code “Jan” for 1 free month Tribe Men’s Group  Pop Culturing Todd Adams Coaching For Guys Painting or remodeling needs?  Check out Avid Co. CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Elizabeth Gilbert’s Valentine’s Day post titled TEN ACTUAL THINGS THAT LOVE HAS SAID TO ME WHEN I WAS ALONE AND AFRAID (FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT NEED IT TODAY). They discuss each one and how they can rewire the way we experience ourselves and the way we see the world. TEN ACTUAL THINGS THAT LOVE HAS SAID TO ME WHEN I WAS ALONE AND AFRAID (FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT NEED IT TODAY❤️) ...
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Cathy & Todd talk about the new Taylor Swift Documentary, Shakira’s and J-Lo’s Superbowl half time show, and other powerful women. 3:54 Quick take #1 ERA Ammendment progress 5:10 Quick take #2 Shaq grieving over the loss of Kobe 9:18 Review of Shakira and J-Lo’s Superbowl performance 17:45  Help your child learn to love math by signing up for your free Prodigy parent account today. Visit www.prodigygame.com/zenparenting/ and click “get your free account” to get ...
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Todd and Cathy discuss Fast Times at Ridgemont High from 1982.   Fast Times at Ridgemont High is a 1982 American teen coming-of-age comedy film directed by Amy Heckerling and written by Cameron Crowe, adapted from his 1981 book of the same title. Crowe went undercover at Clairemont High School in San Diego and wrote about his experiences.[3] Trailer: https://youtu.be/vzva_I8WPAg  ...
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